Don't know what to do about giving the neighbor rides now

He gets ten rides for ten dollars…his trips are rather lengthy though, and he needs a ride in the afternoon and then at eight pm. tonight he gets a ride because he closes…anyways…he’s applying for a groundskeeper position with the city tomorrow so I have to wait outside while he applies…this family needs me and I don’t want to sound bad, but they are kind of taking advantage of me…the wife needed a ride to the a t m yesterday…after picking him up from work last night he had me stop on the side of the highway while he picked his wife daffodils. a bit much.

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Sounds like you need to set boundaries

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yes, exactly…and when and if he gets this groundskeeper job he will most likely need a ride twice a day then too…it seems I’ve bitten off more than I can chew. I worry about wear and tear on our old car too. it’s not used to being driven so much.

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I thought he was paying you for gas?

a dollar a ride round trip…it’s pretty far to take him to work…I think I’m not getting paid enough but honestly I’m thinking the wear on the car isn’t really panning out I am going to have to stop giving him rides I think.

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That’s not covering the cost of wear and tear on your vehicle or your insurance. You’re being taken advantage of.

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Thats not even covering the cost of gas unless your car runs on water :grinning:

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Maybe say from now on you can only do emergencies as your not able to cover costs of maintenance on your car doing extra mileage everyday. They will have to take a bus or a taxi its just not fair on you

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Tell him to get his own car and ■■■■ off.

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Tell him you didnt mind helping him but you can’t provide a taxi service for next to nothing on a permanent basis and that you can’t help him any more.

I agree. With you that hes taking advantage. A few lifts is a nice gesture but a constant taxi service is not right.

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When I had a car I was in a similar conundrum. I had to tell her that I can’t afford to take her anywhere any more. I barely got money gas to go work at the time.

You are not obligated to give the person rides if you don’t want to.

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Maybe go knock on the guys door and tell him in the morning or something. Get it out the way.

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I texted him but he won’t hear about this until his wife talks to him while he’s at work…I am giving him a ride tomorrow morning to his interview but I told him no more after that…

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Good job! Don’t let him sweet talk you into any more.

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Yeah, when you first posted about giving this guy rides I was going to say something about being taken advantage of. Maybe you don’t need to cut him off completely. Maybe just give him rides occasionally when you feel like it.

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Itspretty crappy to offer and then back out. It’s all well and good to say " well, I bit off.more than I can chew" but I have to wonder how you presented this to him. Telling someone you’ll be a reliable mode of transportation, especially someone poor as you made them out to be and then changing your mind after them taking you up on it is just awful.

And to just text it to them while he is at work? Not even trying to talk it out? Not cool.

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Can you try to ask for a fair price that covers your costs?

Regularly carrying passengers for compensation changes your risk profile. That requires commercial auto insurance, which will likely be 3x or more expensive. This also means being commercially registered and perhaps having a taxi/chauffeur license (varies from one locale to another).

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A dollar a ride doesn’t even cover the oil for the journey lol

$1 a ride really? Lol if he needs help I say help but no way am I stopping on the freeway so he can pick daisies wth lol

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If you’re looking to help the guy out I’d say start charging $5 a ride. Not round trip. That’s still doing him a HUGE favour while being more fair.

He needs to meet you half way.

Don’t abandon the guy, but you’re not a charity chauffeur. You said he works? Why can’t be pay $5-10?