Do you like it better when people feel sorry for you and dont think you can do amything?

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Or hold you accountable and don’t want to hear excuses?

I’m kinda leaning towards accountable but that can turn to indifference pretty fast. What are your thoughts?

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The latter sounds like a symptom of sz

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I prefer people to feel sorry for me, because that may mean they care. That’s stigma, though, I have to change my view with my therapist. I also wrote a similar thread about equality and justice, it’s about how you want others to see you and treat you.

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How is is that a symptom? The indifference is in my head?

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Do you have a link?

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Nevermind see it. :smiley:

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Sorry that I was late. I hope it helps you, it’s a bit messed up because I didn’t understand what the others were saying very well. But you can see what my therapist believes…

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I sometimes wish that more people would feel sorry for me, but the truth is that many people in my life, like my brother and father, pdoc, therapist do not feel sorry for me - my brother is kind of hard on me, he calls it tough love

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My brother is like that to me and my mother wants to do everything for me.

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yeah, my Mom and her sister are like this with me too

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Hmmm maybe there is a gender component. All the woman and male providers I have had always leave me with feeling that I could be doing more.

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My brother feels like I could be doing more, but he really does not understand the nature of BP/SZA

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My family doesn’t value my time at all. I work so hard to be devalued all the time. But they never learned how to love somebody properly.

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I’m sorry to hear these…My family is on my side but sometimes they ignore me or treat me a bit hard and I don’t think they love me, but, comparing to other parents, they adore me.

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I know…its hard hard to count your blessings sometimes. People are strictly with system support don’t get much.

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*who are strictly

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I like to be independant as possible, only asking for help when what I need can’t be obtained with my own two hands.
Even then, 99% of the time I’d rather do without.

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Hold me accountable and empathize if I have issues.

Empathy trumps sympathy in my book.

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I think I have a natural tendency to desire being felt sorry for. This is tough. All I really want is people to talk to.

I’m pretty sure I get treated like anyone else. That comes pretty naturally to people where I live.

For a while they felt sorry for me. That faded though as they realized it’s just a part of me now.

Some of them even respect me and my character.

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