My mum was abused and her dad was an alcoholic
I once heard her say to my dad that she doesn’t like herself.
She sleeps in her free time
Growing up as a child, she was not emotionally available for me.
I can understand why
She had a hard life.
And it has had a toll on her.
But it has sort of left me with a Co dependant streak with others.
Does anyone relate to the Co dependant streak and how to recover from that?
Do you think your partners have engaged in abusive behaviour towards you?
I don’t really know what abusive means, precisely.
So I’m not going to answer that.
But me and my current partner have a healthy relationship mostly. But I still have a little bit of Co dependancy in me, where I care more about what he thinks of me than what I think of me
I am getting an assessment for therapy this month that might help if I’m approved for it.
Plus it’s a weight thing… For me. As that is something I can change
How are you?
It isn’t still clear to me what you mean with co dependency
I’m fine thanks! 2kg less than last month. It could be quicker, but…
It’s not a sprint mentality, but marathon mentality 
It’s like when you care more what another person thinks of you than what you think of yourself.
It’s really terrible.
So you would do things the other person thinks are right instead of what you think are right, deep inside. For yourself. Etc.
In order to be ‘accepted’ by that person.
I may be wrong, but I think you’re confusing terms.
What you’re saying is plain old simple insecurity…
Yes Co dependancy stems from plain old insecurity.
It’s a really sad condition.
I understand a completely different thing from co dependency. You’re not seeking abusive relationships. I don’t think u would tolerate one if given the case.
This is what it says when I Google “codependent”
If you guy by this definition…. I am VERY codependent I guess
Codependency doesn’t apply to a person, but a type of relationship. “Co” prefix means with or together. A relationship of this kind needs a giver and a taker.
My last relationship was extremely co dependent. I needed that girl to have my back so bad but she was just super cold after the illness and mistakes I made. I’ve developed this mentality that people who are bad to me a the good people and people who are kind to me are just confused… I’m starting to be happy single
