I have been talking with my best friend’s twin brother whom I used to be best friends with too but he avoids people now because of severe anxiety…he drinks a lot because he can’t handle the anxiety…I have the key to fixing his anxiety and have been coaching him…tried tonight to try and get him to attend an online AA meeting. no luck…he just changed the subject…gonna’ keep working on him…I don’t want to lose him like i am losing my other best friend.
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Happy cake day @jukebox.
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ha thanks…didn’t notice that.
It can be hard to get someone to make the right changes for themselves. Heck, it took a long time for me to finally quit drinking the devil’s sauce. We have to see that we need change ourselves and that can take time and be frustrating for those who care about us.
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I just don’t see how online AA meetings can work. My advice is: go to a in person meeting. Maybe buy him some twelve steps literature too
Sorry to hear about your friend’s brother. I have a drinking problem too and go to AA when I can. My mom and her boyfriend used to drink excessively too. A lot of my anxiety went away when I switched AP’s though.
@anon2030207 he says he really wants to stop…his anxiety keep him from attending meetings for the first reason he doesn’t want to go.
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Love it. Never heard the term Devil’s Sauce before. That’s about what alcohol is to me.
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I’m not sure what to say? I can only speak about my process to sobriety and it was a process to say the least. Sorry your friend is having anxiety. It doesn’t help having anxiety because we as the alcoholic self medicate ourselves to feel less anxious. It’s an unending cycle. Frustrating
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It was a major cause of difficulties for me. Glad it’s out of my life now.
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Reach out to your local AA chapter. They will try and dispatch program members on a 12 Step call for your friend. They might be more successful.
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I’m glad it’s out of your life too. Unfortunately I slipped New Years Eve. I’m trying to rid myself of it though.
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It was swelling my ankles so i quit drinking the last thing i was sipping on a few years ago . Ain’t no going back for me. I don’t want that crap no more.
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I started drinking to quit smoking cause of the anxieties. Now I got two addictions. I overcame the drinking but still smoke. I ve been in a dark place without any of the alcohol or tabbacco. Changing is not easy, when the addictions get satisfied for a long period of time like air. Sometimes i think i want to live as well, i don’t know the magic vanishing into nothing.
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What good habits are you trying to replace the bad habits with?
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I can’t switch my brain off, i am constantly thinking like sz do. Plus i have to do my daily affairs like finance, hygiene and diet and exercise. Its too much. I tried since i am diagnosed and always failed. The smoking helps me calm my nerves. Give me some ideas to replace my addictions?
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Yeah SZ is like a category 5 hurricane in your head and APs lower it to a category 2.
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You haven’t failed, you’ve just found some ways that don’t work for recovery. That means you’re now closer to succeeding. Don’t give up!
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