Not saying it’s always toxic. We all need a little attention, some more than others. But @Gagis 's post about Ostentation felt very relatable. In the past I would obsessively check the notification area for likes and get depressed if none came. Really self-damaging behavior.
In the early days before this message board i would hope for replies to my posts and felt bad if i never got any, its still the same, i think i value replies more than i value likes, likes are nice though.