I am in my first ever serious relationship. Assuming everything continues to go as well as it has been going, my boyfriend and I have discussed moving in together once I am finished with nursing school and have a job. Now there are pretty much set shifts nurses work and I had been wanting to do the 3-11 which works with my sleep schedule and allows me to get plenty of sleep. The trouble is my boyfriend’s hours are like 7 am to 5:30 pm. If I were to work the 3-11 I’d never see him. Same if I did an overnight shift because I’d be sleeping when he got back.
This means I would have to take either a 7 am-3 pm shift 5 days a week or a 7 am-7 pm shift 3 days a week. I am very concerned for this because it is not compatible with my sleep schedule, and historically when I have been most unstable, it’s when I have to wake up early regularly, like when I was in school as a kid. I don’t know what to do. Do I risk my mental health and well-being so I can see my boyfriend regularly? Or do I put my own well-being first and only get to visit with him probably on the weekend?
summary: I originally wanted to avoid working early shifts because they aren’t compatible with my sleep schedule and thus I end up chronically sleep deprived and very symptomatic. But now that I plan on living with my boyfriend eventually, if I take later shifts I will never get to visit with him because he works a typical day shift. I’m now having to choose between my mental health and getting to spend time with who I love and it’s stressing me out even though this won’t be for a year or so.