In having a relesonship*, women are more likely to find somebody then men… So unfair
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They’re also way more likely to be murdered trying.
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That’s not true. From my perspective, this world is based on appearances and personalities. So if you’re good looking, man or woman, you can find someone easily. If you’re charming, humble, and funny, you’ll also find someone.
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Im not any of those
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this can go either way, i think its more important to know yourself anyway before you date anybody really. i dont even know myself. only reason i say this is cause we can go forever saying who has advantages. Its always “evolving” also. im slowly letting myself believe that “luck” does exist.
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man don’t say that until you’ve been one.
It’s also easier for a man to be happier alone… he’s just gotta find the right ways to stroke himself… that is in ego and a few other unsavory ways.
Well in a relationship there is both a man and woman in many cases so I would think the odds are pretty even. If you can find a best friend whom you eventually love and they you, it is so meaningful.
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No, there are plenty of women who struggle to find relationships with guys because
- They have high standards
- Guys have high standards
Both men and women struggle to find relationships with another person, male or female. Generally people who are outgoing/extroverted tend to do better at this. Males with sz tend to struggle more than females with making social relationships happen statistically. Possibly due to differences in the severity of the illness between sexes as well as differencesin the types of symptoms (males are more socially withdrawn on average and more prone toward negative symptoms like apathy).
I think it would benefit you not to view having a girlfriend as a central focus in life. Better yet, stop viewing life in general as a “competition” with “players”. That is better for mental health.
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Social relationships are infinitely complicated, those who can navigate them successfully and understand the subtleties of them are often just fortunate because of luck. Many of them have no idea why this or that is working out for them.
While those of us who suffer from a lack of social skills or drive as a result of mental illness are often left wondering where things went wrong.
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I’m a woman and I find it very, very easy to be happy alone.
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I wouldn’t say women are luckier. As a woman it took me till I was 30 before I found my fiancé. Before that I had the hardest time finding a serious relationship as everyone before it was just a casual fling. There was one guy who was abusive on every level. I think women are more prone to being abused or raped as I’ve been raped 3 times. 
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On the other hand, I see a lot more guys complaining that they are virgins, or that they have never had a relationship ever. Or that they never had even one kiss.
Personally, I am afraid when a girl comes onto me. I’ve always been that way. Some girls get the cold shoulder from me and they back away. It’s not that I have high standards, it’s that it takes a certain kind of person to get to my heart.
I really feel bad that girls come onto me and they end up getting pushed away or hurt by my cold persona.
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Like others, I find it wayy easier to be alone than to battle a relationship. But then again, I’m wearied by relationship/wars and so getting older makes everything better. Being older tells me that I don’t have to be like other folks, I can be just me. ahh…
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No, we’re not, is just that we are used to having men courting us women.And hey it always depends on factors appearance and personalities.
I’m so sorry to hear that @SunGirl You are so brave!!
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I’ve never had a girlfriend and I sure as hell want one.
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I think I’d agree women can find it easier - if they have the aim to marry. Why i say that is because in Islam, men have the obligation to work and be financially stable before they can marry, but women don’t. Women aren’t obliged to work in Islam if the husband can support them. My husband supports me so I don’t have to work. So in Islam if the woman wants to marry she doesn’t have to find a job first. She can just select a suitor with compatible personality and who’s financially stable. 
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Many males with schizophrenia get it when they are about 18-21. For women, it is around 27-33. The problem if you compare these ages is that age 18 and 19 is almost right out of high school and that is when people start trying to find out how how and where they belong in society and how they fit in and its when they are just beginning to learn about being an adult and having relationships with the opposite sex (or the same sex I guess).
But here’s where women have the advantage and probably explains why their prognosis seems to be better than men. Because women learn what they need to about life at the crucial ages of 19-27. Schizophrenia screws that up for 19-21 year old men. That’s why you see a lot of women who are married on here or were married when they were younger. I’m not saying it’s easy for women with schizophrenia to have relationships. But compared to men with schizophrenia I would say it’s easier.
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I think whether male or female some people do better in the environmental/genetic/personality sweepstakes when it come to forming friendships and relationships.
Luck can and does play a part. I was lucky to be in hospital at the same time as the person who was to become my partner and then wife for 22 years. We clicked without there being any courtship ritual. Romantic lightening can strike even if only once to the most unexpected of us.
Since she’s died I’ve had no friends and little contact with non family people. Truth is I wouldn’t know where to start to initiate and develop a relationship. It would have to happen just like it did all those year ago and that is highly unlikely. I am not even sure I could cope with the emotional intensity of it.
My wife liked and loved me when I was at my lowest ebb and not the kind of person who participates here. She loved me warts and all. I would have to find someone who loved me for who I am and not what they want me to be. Someone to help me develop as my wife did by encouraging the good points of my personality and bringing strengths to the fore. Not someone who basically wanted to completely change me to fit their ideal. If you’re attracted to a Robert Redford type you shouldn’t then spend your time trying to shape them into a Jack Nicholson type. That isn’t love. Not that I am like either of those two,I hasten to add.
If your relationship is a battle then you haven’t found a good one.
I don’t like the misconception that all relationships are just ■■■■■■■■ between codependent people… and I totally see why those who have good relations just keep it to themselves.
It’s a highly volatile issue for single people and they lose respect for the institutions. As understandable as that is… absolutely slandering an idea is almost always taking it to far.