I’ve learnt to live…
Teach me then…!!!
change the attitude …that means change your thinking/thoughts… I did this and got wise mature and inner peace
sounds cool what’s your attitude now?
my attitude is wise and peaceful
So you’re no longer fixated on money, then?
I have lots of money…but I am mentally stable wixel
Yes I am also trying to become wiser…
Good job Pedro.
What is CBT? what do u specifically do?
I don’t have a cbt therapist. I try my best to make up for this problem by applying some principles on myself.
- I constantly monitor ALL my thoughts. Including subliminal ones, who are only detected by the feeling they generate. If I get an unusual feeling of defeat or disappointment or worry, I assume behind it there lies an unhealthy thought habit.
- I immediately analyze the thought with metacognition. If it’s a good one, I try to reinforce it. If it’s a bad one, I take steps to counter it with more positive thoughts.
- several times a day I repeat some mantras for good health, hope and personal development. Words like “I will feel more pleasure; I will sleep better; I will be more energetic”. These mantras should be tailored to fit your own needs.
- every week I try pushing my limits a bit, with a new activity. For example, last week I started brushing my teeth again, once a day; this week I started a small collaboration which involves translating a couple of articles every day.
That sums it up I guess. Questions
So… you like tame the thoughts? to be more optimistic? how about for when u get a thought telling u not to do the specifinc thing like picking up an instrument and jamming for a few minutes?
Good question. I used to play the piano. Now my feelings are still blunted so I haven’t resumed playing. But if things go well, maybe my feelings will come back in a year or so… I can only hope
Anyway, if I get intrusive negative thoughts, I stop whatever I’m doing and analyze it:
- It may be a normal reaction to a shitty situation. For example, I’ve always hated manual labor, but these days I have to help my dad fix the car. He gives me easier tasks, like unscrew the wheels. I almost invariably get apathetic when faced with such tasks. But I take a moment to think positively about the situation, things like: “It’s easy to do, it will be ready in the blink of an eye; I’ve done this before, it’s piece of cake; I’ll be happier when it’s over”.
- It may be an abnormal reaction stemmed from my inability to feel anticipatory pleasure. In this case, I do roughly the same thing, I dismiss the negative thought and replace it with others: “I will definitely enjoy doing this for a while; Last time I did this it was cool; This is silly, I WANT to do this”.
With practice, I’ve learned to promptly identify a defeatist or negative thought, and I usually turn it into a good one.
Important note: sometimes negative thoughts are subliminal and I fail to detect them. It takes a while before I realize the negative feeling generated by said thoughts. By then it might be too late, the damage has been done. But I take it as an experience building situation. In time I will learn to identify even subliminal thoughts, and alter them on the spot.