You go through fertility treatments to have a second child when you know you can’t cope with one. She lives with her mother , father and husband in one house. Her mother came to stay with us after her operation and my cousin goes into a fit of rage about how she’s having to look after two kids and can’t cope with it and how her mother isn’t helping.
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I have no answer. I’m not a great parent, but I don’t expect my.mom to help out.
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Some people aren’t rational about certain things. Having kids in bad circumstances is common.
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Well, my thought about this was so you would have someone to look after you when you get old. Plus passing along your genes and having someone you are important to, instead of being alone.
This is old school thinking though.
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I hear about this often. My aunt and uncle are dedicated foster parents so they ask themselves that question time and again.
No easy answers. It is horrible that the kids have to pay for the BS of their birthgivers.
I am not a parent so I cannot comment further.
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I had twins. It was a lot of work when they were small. I mean I was bone weary tired. My mom didn’t help much, but I knew grandparents don’t equal babysitters. My husband helped a lot when he was home. I never flew into a fit of rage. I hope the mother somehow is able to handle her motherly responsibilities better.
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No, but if a grandkid comes along before I kick the bucket I’ll offer help when asked. I’ll also do the harder thing and keep my nose out of it when NOT asked. My wife is gonna flake out on that second one. She keeps trying to order the kid around and then gets mad at me for pointing out she’s an adult now and can do whatever she wants.
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That’s great if you can help. Whenever my mom helped it was always greatly appreciated.
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I was practically raised by my grandmother and maybe it’s for the best. My mom is a very tough cookie.
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Children can suffer a lot having some parents.
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