I have been lusting after this man
So basically physically attracted to him
But I don’t even feel comfortable around him.
So why can I not let go.
Why is physical attraction so powerful.
Why is it not the compatability that is more powerful as that would mean better teamwork thus better evolution so yea…?
Physical attraction isnt neccesarily lust. Physical attraction is how people reproduce so its a good thing. Lust is when physical attraction is out of control, or inappropriate for your role in life.
Sex is good and were naturally made to have those feelings. But when sexual attraction controls you its just an addiction to sex a.k.a. lust.
I really need to get over him.
As I am just so stressed.
And I know i’ll start drinking again, if I meet him
Physical appearance is the first thing a person notices about someone. That’s why lust even though it is natural can be so dangerous.
Yes I think my attraction is out of control.
Because I don’t even feel comfortable around him but I want to keep in contact.
Doesn’t make sense to me.
It’s obvious this thread is about me. But I’m married @LittleMissSlothy and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Please move on and get over me!
Thats okay im sure youll figure it out
If I’m lusting then I’m lost I’ve found.
i was thinking the same, third time this month
Yea this is also true for me.
I think for me it is an overmastering desire., number 3.
I had a problem with lust for most of my life ever since I discovered internet porn I think in 2004 when I was 14. But now I’ve seen everything so many times that sex just doesn’t interest me anymore. I’m happy to remain single and not have any kids. I’m very selfish with my time because I only have a limited amount and having a wife and kids and a job to provide for them would take up all of my time for nearly two decades and I don’t want that.
That doesn’t make you selfish.
It is not like you are harming someone with your choice
You are doing what makes you feel better
I just feel like my time is better spent on my recovery right now but maybe once I get healthy enough I’ll want a family.
I will get out this rut. Got to believe in the bigger picture.