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Why can't I have friends and relationships?


#1

What is it that sets me apart? Do I look odd? Do I give off a vibe that says stay away? Too ugly or too fat. I really do not get it. I try to fit in but I’m always the odd one out. I’m almost 29 for goodness sake.


#2

Keep trying. I’ve felt the same way often. But I’ve had YEARS where I was VERY social. I was hanging out with my sister and her friends. I was going to parties, going out to eat, or concerts, I even used to go with my sister when she went to pick up my nephew from his first grade class. And I would meet the teacher, and parents and even got into basketball games with the kids. It was not always smooth or easy, but I did a lot of fun stuff. You’re time will come. I actually have never needed a circle of friends. I’m perfectly happy having one friend who I can do stuff with. But I used to make unintentional friends in AA or at work. Sometimes I’m too friendly and people invite me places. But I’ve been in your situation often.


#3

I’m sure you can make friends. It just takes a bit more effort for people with this condition I guess. I have a hard time making friends myself. I always get paranoid and wind up distancing myself. But luckily some of the people I know are stubborn and can get past my issues and still cheer me up. I’m lucky to have them.


#4

I remember that pic of you from the other thread… You are NOT ugly. In fact I really thought you were very beautiful.

Friends are hard even for NON-Sz people. Sure, commercials and Facebook make it seem like everyone has a million friends. But they don’t. I’ve been asking non-sz people on this, and as life gets faster and people get to an age where they work and come home exhausted, friends are harder for a lot of people.