When criticizing a friend

Don’t say “I don’t like him/her.” Rather mention one area of trouble, like “I can’t stand the way he blows his nose.” Because then you are not rejecting him totally. He doesn’t have to think he’s God in order to be one of the bunch. Does that make sense? I’m just making some ground rules for myself in an effort to expand my social life. :coffee:


Sounds like a good philosophy.

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I always learned that if you really wanna lose a friend be critical of what they do. Good things.

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Yes, but you don’t want to bury the negative completely. That causes stress.

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Blowing things out of proportion, is one of the issues dealt with in books on CBT therapy. I think you’ve got the right idea there