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What's the best way to develop relationship skills?

We have some psych majors anyone know what is the best way to go about developing relationship skills?? i guess probably to just be active and try to do some social things BUT meeting the right people that like you and bond with you is difficult. Any thoughts?

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How to Improve Your Social Skills and Make Friends :soccer:

http://www.ehow.com/how_2161892_improve-social-skills-friends.html#ixzz2saPQX9as

OR

$35.00 course :computer:

http://www.universalclass.com/i/course/interpersonal-communication-101.htm

The psychiatric treatment center that I used to work for had an Adult Day Training program that taught social/relationship skills.

Maybe you can check your local day centers to see if there are any such programs in your area.

I know it really helped our patients.

Blessings,

Anthony

I ended up in a day hospital and they taught me how to apply for a job and do a job interview and how to be social and pick up on some non-spoken cues.

For me it’s just getting over my self-consciousness and trying to swallow my panic and say Hi.
I can read a lot of books, but it’s hard approaching people. But I just have to do it sometimes. I have to tell myself it won’t be that bad. They aren’t out to hurt me.

So far I’ve been Ok. When people do react poorly I have to step back and realize that they don’t even know me. So why am I so upset by them. I’ll never see them again.

If you can survive family… strangers are easy I’m coming to find.

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Perhaps of help - just some resources I found via google (searching for “online social skills course”

http://www.succeedsocially.com/

http://www.myvmc.com/treatments/social-skills-training-sst/

http://www.reneegilbert.com/socialskills.htm

Get in one. Hopefully with someone who simply likes you and you like them. My problem for the past several years is that I’m too picky. If a potential friend offends me at the beginning of a friendship then I back away and get out of the relationship. It’s my ego, thinking I should get nothing but respect, which is unrealistic. Which is very hard. I’m working on it too.
There’s a change in society I noticed since I was 17 and had a few friends and acquaintances. The cliche used to be that guys wanted a friend TO DO STUFF with. While girls wanted a friend just to TALK. It’s a little over-generalization but it seemed to be true to a degree when I was growing up. Now roles can be mixed.

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As far as I know, the best way to pick up some good social skills is getting close to someone who has a good repertoire of relationship skills, and then do what they do. Note the difference in your social behavior, social perception or social judgement and ask yourself if that one has a higher survival value. Can I do that? Motivate yourself to do a little bit each time. U will have a lot of chance to shape up pro social behavior in that way.

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