for me i am guy nd not in love with anyone
not married not engaged not having gf
so i am asking whats like to have a partner in ur life ??
is it good or bad ?
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It is definitely good, when it is right.
Being in a relationship is difficult, two different people together is not easy but with patience and understanding, it is possible and fun.
When it is a good match, it is the most fun, finding someone who understands you will make your life easier.
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I second what @mermaid1 said.
Being in a relationship can be beautiful and fun.
But it can be a struggle too.
When I look back at the women I dated, I realize there are a lot of things I would do much differently now. Especially since I’m older and more mature (At least I like to think so Ha!).
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For me it was pure hell. I have had so many lovers in my life both male and female. And they all turned out to be lousy. I am by myself now and much, much happier.
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I’ve been with the same guy for 24 years. He stuck with me and helped me with sz. I am so lucky! It’s been great! I lost most of my friends before I was diagnosed, but he stayed. I can’t imagine life without him. Finding an understanding, patient partner is so important!!
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I’ve only had one long term relationship, and I found it tedious. We weren’t compatible. It wasn’t violent, or anything like that. I just kind of sat there and listened to her talk. I’m sure that being in a good relationship that works can be very rewarding in many different ways, but, judging from some of the reports I’ve been getting about relationships that didn’t work, being in a pathological relationship is its own special kind of hell. I’ve heard about relationships that ended with beatings with hammers and whatnot. I’ve seen a few relationships that didn’t work, and they looked pretty miserable.
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nice adjective. i would have used the word poopy.
I’ve yet to experience a deep connection with someone. i was shrouded in illness.
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The benefits of anything should exceed the drawbacks.
Also read about this type of relationship:
This is a common relationship pattern in people who can’t be independent, the relationship becomes everything to you, and it is unhealthy.
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I digg Anders and he used to take me out and taught me how to jog and we were beautiful together but I was too messed up and so was he perhaps.
I apologise to my xzzzz.
I was psychotic and very messed up…
My current boyfriend broke my one year mark meaning I never had a man for over a year apart from Anders in a way cause although we were not together as gf/bf he was still there for me but I was not always there for him and I am sorry for that.
I had paranoia and delusions about my loved ones …
Sacred.
My current relationship has been good I think.
We said we are the b st thing to happen to each other.
That said my neigh is one of the best things to happen to me too and riding in the rain with my bf waiting in car was ones the best experiences and moments of my life.
We rode Beautifuly together and she usually dislikes being in rain but not this time.
My boyfriend and I do not fight much and we have barely had fights​:hushed:
lol
I said to him about not standing for me when his friends and family disrespected me and tried bossing me around and putting me down and behaving horridly to me …
I am disappointed but forgive him for it despite that I came here alone to new state and then brought my sacred neigh.
We had a fight recently about his friend going on about how ugly small tits are and I was the only one their with small tits.
I thought it was disgusting behaviour.
Although my father would probably say things like that about obese people and even to their face.
People have different tastes it is still really rude though.
My boyfriend made me apologise to his friend despite that it is HE who should be apologising.
I even ended up giving the big boobed woman gifts for their birthday despite that no kind words came out of their mouth to me.
My boyfriend and I decided I will not attend dinners because how I feel they disrespect me and treat me badly but now he wants me to attend a roast dinner at home with two friends he invited and I do not know if I am up for it.
I suffer at most dinners even with my own family.
It has been nice to not have heaps of fights and I bent myself against my will so we would not fight…
Why should iiiiiiiii apologise for their wrongdoings toward me???
But I apologised because I do not want us to break up and because we could of broken up and they never made me feel welcome but I am always a outsider amount most people all people I think…
We take pretty good care of each other …
Remind me each other to take medication,assist each other etc
He held my hand when I was having a breakdown and was afraid I would need hospitalisation but he gave me dinner in bed he made for me and held my hand and then I sobbed I think and he gave me medication and I felt better the next day.
He went to my psychiatrist with me.
He made nice things for me and almost daily says he loves me .
I love his taste and smell and look.
I do not want to lose myself though because by apologising to his friends it is against me because I still believe they have done wrong by me and we’re trying to drive me away.
By apologising to keep the peace I went against my beliefs in a way.
He has been a great partner and it is very nice and loving home.
We do not have nasty daily fights but it is precious.
I want to be there for him and I think it can be amazing to be in a good relationship.
We have different opinions about a lot of things and I do not want to lose myself there either because my boyfriend actually voted for me.
I could not make my mind up so he voted and I do not want to give my voice or vote away …
It can be positive and not destructive.
Life partner can be sacred and holy Union .
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It’s worth it. It really is. Then sometimes it isn’t and it’s not worthwhile being with one. As pointed out previously it depends on the people involved.
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I’ve never dated someone more than 3 months.
My aunt started calling me a “player” because of every family function I would have a new girlfriend.
I am jealous of those who can have a long term relationship.
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I’m undateable.
I think relationships look nice though.
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I would date you 
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It is good when you are treated with respect. When you treat each other with respect. When you feel listened to and never ignored. When you are made to feel you matter. And there is an attempt to understand the condition.
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It’s great when we get along, but it sucks when we fight. For the most part we’re okay.
Lately it’s been tense. At times I admit I have some pretty dark ideas in response. Nothing towards her, but I start to feel it’s hopeless to stay and it’s hopeless if I end up fending for myself again.
I don’t know but it doesn’t look right for me, at best it is a cage or a chain…
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Being with a partner is both wonderful and hard.
It’s hard when you have to be unselfish and do things out of your comfort zone. And it’s hard when you two have an argument
But it’s wonderful when you connect, do things together, support each other and cuddle each other. It’s wonderful when you can go to bed at night and are not alone, there’s this living breathing teddy bear beside you. 
I love my solitude a lot but I truly believe we were created in pairs for a reason. To help each other. But one must choose well. If two people are a match then it is the most wonderful thing.
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That is what I hate the most, no privacy, no flatulence and dirt liberty…
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It’s wonderful when you’re not fighting with them. My boyfriend helps me a ton with coping and with areas of my life that I have less of a grasp on right now. Without him, I’d probably have ended up in the hospital.
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Zilija1, it can be good to forgive others, but it’s important to forgive yourself. I’m sorry that you feel kind of body shamed. People come in all shapes and sizes.
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