What would you do

I mainly hangout with one friend and he lives near my place like 1 min drive. He keep asking me to pick him up everytime we hangout. He has a car and a full time job so he has money, I don’t have a job. I feel like he’s using me. The thing is that he accepted to pick me up at night as I can’t drive far at night, I don’t see well. Also I don’t want to lose him as a friend as my other 2 friends live far like 15min drive, only one of them has a car. The guy with a car rarely wants to hangout like a few times a month. Should I tell him that I am not picking him up anymore?

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We rarely hangout at night so its not fair for me.

It’s a real shame your meds make it difficult to drive, eh @Aziz?

:wink:

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tell the sucker the truth…hey man, I ain’t got no job…no money see? you work, you got a car, you drive for all meets…see? tough love.

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We hanged out today and I told him I am not picking him up, he came with his car. I was scared of losing him as a friend, i am still feeling bad about it idk why.

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I wouldnt make a huge deal out of it… i mean friendship is worth more than a few dollars… i think we have to overlook peoples short comings sometimes… but you can still be a nice person and assert your needs to… it doesnt need to be a fight… just a gentle reminder can be good like “sorry man i dont know if i can drive tonight do you think you can ? :)” or something you know?

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I always had this problem even before sz, I always make small problems feel huge. Believe it or not last night I couldn’t sleep as I was always thinking about what I should tell him, it feels like OCD and not SZ.

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i see dude hmm… i hope you know i wasnt accusing you or anything… just saying in general. As they say " a soft word can break a bone". sometimes a kind word can make a lot more of a change than getting mad at someone… hope you and your friend can settle this fairly :slight_smile:

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A real friend wouldn’t get mad at you for stating the facts IMO.

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Yea he didn’t get mad.

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@Aziz i went through a tough time with my friends of 7 years, just recently walked away cause I was being manipulated, they didn’t kick me out, but they at the end didn’t care…

Not saying this is your situation but that’s what happened to me. My previous friends before that, they walked away cause I told them I had depression, pretty sad really.

Hope you work something out quick smart. Just part of my story, at least you have friends still!!! You’re doing something right…

Have you told them about sz??

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Yes they know as when we hangout at night they see me taking my pills. Luckily it did not scare them and they’re ok with it.

I have been ruminating over trivial stuff lately and feel depressed, this is why I am indecisive and think too much.

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