What should I do?stay in U.S or go back to China?

I am from China. I am immigrant to the U.S in 2010. Even I stay here over 10 years. But my English still limited. I got schizophrenia in 2013, in the past 5 years, I did not take medicine and got into the hospital 5 times. Now I take medicine every day and get better, unfortunately, my husband wants to divorce.

The problem is we have two daughters, and they are U.S citizen. My husband does not allow them to go back to China with me. If I choose to go back to China, I could not see my daughters. If I choose to stay in the U.S, I have no friends here, I have no relatives here, and I don’t have a job because my English is not good, my skillset is not good.

what should I do?

I’d stay in the US but get some help. What state do you live in?

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New Jersey, thank you!

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I have a master degree in electrical engineering and was a java developer before. Now I try to find a job at paying $20. They did not hire me.

I googled Charities New Jersey and found some. In NJ there are Charities that are used to working with people that have limited English. They may help you find a job.

Do you speak Mandarin or Cantonese?

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there may be a Clubhouse in New Jersey you could join and they might help you find a job :slight_smile: my clubhouse has teps transitional employmen placements and they are supported incase you are not well someone fills in.

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I speak mandarin.

could you please be more specific?

908 782-4357

Volunteer translators in New Jersey

http://www.helplinehc.org/translation-services/

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I can communicate with me in basic language. If they speak quickly and use a lot of terms I will get lost.

Do you have a job? what do you do?

this is the link to open door clubhouse in Pennsylvania Philadelphia

https://www.paclubhouse.org/OpenDoorClubhouse.php

there may be another one in chester called providence and long branch has one called shore house as well i think.

I don’t work now. But when I worked for the phone company we got a lot of calls from people trying to get service who were immigrants or refugees who got help from Catholic Charities or other Charities

Many (particularly refugees) came to the US needing a lot of help. If your husband divorces you the charity may be able to lead you to where you can get a job.

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Great! I don’t know if you can help me practice English every day over the phone?

Sure. I’ll do what I can. Sometimes my dad has me working for hours on the farm.

@bjrpengjing there’s a website meetup.com where you can enter your interest and hobbies into the search field and it’ll show meetups in your area where you can meet other people with similar interest. For example you can search “walking” or “book club” or “board games” and it’ll show a list of those get together in your area. You could even search Chinese. You could also google Chinese groups in your area

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You may meet someone who can help you.

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I feel shameful that let them know I divorce and could not get a job. Also i have schizophrenia, i don’t want them to know .

There are Chinese around me. I don’t want them to know that I have schizophrenia, or they will estrange me.

Then just don’t tell them and make sure to take your meds

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