I’m getting to the point where I need to start focusing on work and independent living. I had an old friend who use to be a huge gamer but now he mainly just works and bar hops in his free time. Yes, unfortunately he’s an alcoholic. It got me thinking though as I mature what are the things that will end up getting left behind? For me it’s guitar, fitness, video games and meditation. I just won’t have time for it all especially if I want to get really good at one of them. What are some things in your life that got left on the back burner because of growing up?
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I used to game a lot. These days it doesn’t interest me. I grew out of it.
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I’m really attached to gaming. There not nearly as fun as they used to be but still the idea of giving them up bothers me.
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For me #1 would be playing soccer. I was a striker and always played for the team in my town/school. I could’ve gone pro but it wasn’t meant to be. I quit playing in my prodromal phase and realized it was a team effort I couldn’t sustain anymore.
Also, getting together with friends for nights on the town. I haven’t had a real friend in many years. Everyone in my school moved on! 
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You were pretty then good huh? I was a great soccer player young, won mvp like 3 or 4 times but this was when I was really young so I don’t think it would have had any bearings on how good I would of been when things actually started to get competitive.
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Most physical activity. At age 64 with a bad back I won’t be playing baseball or tackle football anymore or any other sport. Gotta give up swimming in the ocean too, can’t ride the waves like I used to at all. I don’t think I can run either so jogging is definitely out, with my back the way it is I can barely walk let alone run.
I used to do a lot of yard work but again, the bad back prevents me from doing most of it. In fact I now couldn’t do most of the physical jobs I had at one time, like unloading trucks, working in warehouses, stocking shelves, I’m lucky that at my current job, even though it’s physical,I can do 95% of the tasks they ask me to do. That’s the physical stuff I can’t do
I phased out drinking and doing drugs when I got clean and sober in 1990.
My dating days are probably over I would say. It wasn’t a huge part of my life but just going after women in general takes too much effort. Up until about 6 years ago getting women was all I could think about but I don’t put out to much effort towards that now. If by some miracle I find some woman who is interested in me then I’ll go for it but it’s certainly not a goal of mine to get married
I don’t go to bars or clubs.
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Dating. I’m going to the grave alone unless something huge changes.
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Guitars and playing guitar.
I used to play for a chunk of time pretty much every day plus went to an instructor. I had an incident one day where i got this massive headache and couldnt think and then I got lost walking the dog. I think I was partially psychotic at the time as well. Anyway, for awhile I seemed cognitively impaired and felt i couldnt continue to learn on the guitars anymore, so I gave them away to my niece, because she plays.
Never did figure out what that “incident” was about, but I think I recovered a long time ago.
I don’t see my friends that often
I’m sometimes scared to go outside, they work full time, one of them live several hours away so we plan hang out not often, and sometimes I don’t go because I’m scared to go outside
It seems I’m not as sporty as before, I was moving my body more before but I don’t have much motivation nowadays
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I have lost Good career.
I dont agree with it being about ‘growing up’…..
I have not been able to do much i want to because i feel bullied or excluded or disrespected and hated and not ‘allowed ‘ be and feel like myself .
Thwy cant stand see me playful n happy n myself in my real body as they want my eyes n work n energy n love n play etc in their bods .
Need get my own eyes and colours and nature and spurit n eons n light years n space etc n all i am in species etc in my this real body of me.
Ive been in bodues not real my bod n had malucious ones in me in past act as me maliciously against my will.
I want to do aqua aerobics and horse riding but feel bullied n excluded n disrespected by them all n even attacked or driven away.
Same with gyms and lots beaches n heaps stuff…
not much left i feel able to attend n do kibda.
Shopping groceries the other day excluding bully vibe at me n nakes me sad but do i want ftiends or people trear me tgat way or fly monkeys based on lies probably while real azz holes thrive n treated respectfully.
Thing is i think they treat ne with respect if im in another body.
But this us my real bod as such .
I avoid people kinda because of how badly ive been treated most of my life.
Begin to say ……
Thanjfully able buy my own groceries .
Also cant go gyms n stuff but hopefully go for walks n do youtube movements.
I have faith i might horse ride again.
Not around those horses abd oeople snd neighbourhoods but another country or area i reckon.
Horses n people more suited for me.
Donf lie n bully n steal etc
I have a belief that who i am as a horse is awesome and talks to me sonetimes.
She is me but another species n maybe personality 
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Also she doesnt get ridden.
Only been ridden by two men ever.
And they respected her etc .
Shes free n independent what j heard.
Theres other species of me that have survived too.
Nice we look out for each other n take care n help n undersrand n love n communixate n protect n geal etc
Work, dating and drinking alcohol.
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Singing and piano.
I’m glad I quit singing but I wish I had kept up on piano. Years back when I tried to start up again I couldn’t stand how I sounded so I just gave up.
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I should probably mention i used to smoke lots of cigarettes and drink vodka in my twenties.
I haven’t smoked a cigarette in 4 years and nowadays I only drink on New Year’s Eve.
That sucks man.. I’m sorry. The incident didn’t occur while you were playing guitar did it? I’ve notice that when I’m mindlessly noodling I can enter a kind of dissociative state. Almost the kind of feeling you get when you play video games for too long.
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Are you in therapy or are you taking steps to improve your situation. I have GAD so I know what it’s like not wanting to leave your house. For me exposure therapy was the only option. Also evenamide has been a huge help. I hate giving advice when I have a tool that other people don’t yet.
I never quit guitar long enough to completely hate the way I sounded when I picked it back up. I have gone months without practice then went to guitar center and got completely humbled by incredible players. I hope you pick it back up. I don’t know if this will sound creepy but it seems like you’ve been through more than any of us. I really want good things for you.
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Playing drums in a band, racing BMX bicycles, racing remote control cars.
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Back in the day when I was younger, had friends and hobbies before schizophrenia I used to like hiking, bushcraft, paintball, camping, photography, fishing, video games and movies
Recently I bought new paintball stuff, which is always fun but I don’t have friends to play with so it’s lots of target practice
Oh yeah, I love knives as well
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