I used to be in love with my TV when big brother was on.
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Do u think thereâs such a thing as falling in love and growing in love instead.
I just get the feeling Iâm not a fan of the first option itâs too out of control from personal experience.
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I would say appreciate to fall in love and appreciate people falling in love with you. They are 3 or four different words for love in a different language. Something like amos, agape. I am not sure, i never gave it much importance.
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I find it too hectic tbh. Itâs a shame but wahetever wat can u do. If its hectic mentally n thus emotionally too itâs too much to take on board so just gotta remove myself from it.
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I agree with nick in that I loved a girl once and I couldnât control it. There were tons of other girls interested by me, intrigued by me. But I only wanted her I loved her but it was unrequited so makes me question if it was real. Well I think sometimes she loved that attention and she liked hurting people because thatâs how she was. And I seemed like a worthy victim. I was the lucky 
one 
and I put myself into bad situations because I had a mental illness and wasnât smart. But she took advantage of the fact she definitely knew I was mentally ill. At the end of the day Iâd like to think she wasnât a sociopath and just was a young girl who didnât know anything about mental illness there back in 2010 or whatever.
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Maybe it was not real. Maybe it was but she felt something didnât click. Some people can be âfussyâ like that. I know I can.
Why what did she do to you?
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Yea donât worry some people just donât understand. Iâm sure thereâs someone out there who gets you for who you are, hopefully.
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She gave me lsd, encouraged me to do it more than I wanted to, then when I had a bad trip she just ignored and messed with me, in real life, on cell phone, or on Facebook . Then she laughed at me. Then when I became really psychotic and â â â â she would talk to me online and mislead me and â â â â with me years later. And I feel like she was smart and knew how everything would effect me. Well she was always messing with me and leading me down bad paths. I canât blame her for that, rather how she treated me when I became messed up. Maybe she just didnât know how to react. She laughed at me though when I was really psychotic for the first time in My life. I donât think sheâs a good person. She used me a lot and wanted to manipulate me and I was young. And she tries to hurt. She makes excuses for hurting people saying she was hurt herself by her family but I donât think itâs an excuse. Once I asked her out she just ignored me the next time I saw her I asked about it she was in shock I said âwell you could have just said noâŚâ. But she never said no. Ever. Just wanted to ruin me I felt. But I was â â â â â â up and it was a bad situation. But reflecting over it the years neither of us were perfect. Far from it. But I wasnât malicious. And I made it clear she didnât have to hurt me if she didnât want to but she did anyways. Oh well.
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She is either evil or she really didnât know what on earth she was doing
Gosh that is pretty annoying sorry you had to go through that.
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Thanks for being understanding. She never even did those drugs. So she had no clue how it would effect me I think which Is what I donât get the most
I wanted to do them. I donât blame her for thatâŚbut stuff couldâve gone way better. Oh well.
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I hate recreational drugs with a passion
At least you are out of that relationship good for you 
Yes I think it was Greek?
- amos = romantic love
- philia = love between siblings or parent-child
- agape = charitable love
- storge = I forgot
Anyway you never love two people identically. And lust is selfish but love is not. Love doesnât need possession but the latter can reinforce it, as can its absence (chaste love).
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Love seeks the other personâs best interests. Lust seeks only its own gratification. Lust can be one sided or from both sides but love should be from both sides.
These two are not mutually exclusive and should never be expected to be so. In most cases, both are very important to a permanent relationship. Therefore, you want both.
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Probably wildly inaccurate, but I like this one anyway.
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I agree. Lust is physical attraction, infatuation is thinking someone is perfect and has no flaws. Love is knowing a personâs flaws, but it doesnât change your feelings for them. Love is choosing to be there for that person despite your differences and those little (or big!) things that drive you crazy because they are worth it and meaningful to you. You cant control infatuation, itâs like a wildfire that burns like crazy until all the fuel is gone. Love is saying you still want to be with that person even after the fire has burned away, making that decision to be with them.
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