We got married in 2010 and around the last few months it’s like the gloves have come off.
he’s being a real downer. I am either all sunshine or working too hard on my laptop… not listening or not always being respectful (all my worst crimes and yes i know that is bad enough)
But he has turned into his thug father. Domineering, criticising, bad mood, complaining, isolates himself from the world - so he never has anything to talk about - he just goes to work and back
complaining about where we live and that the garden is too much or that it’s in a bigger city 1 - 2 hours twice on a 4 day break.
I don’t know what he expects but with all the things i cook from scratch i don’t get a comment unless it’s a sausage which is new from the shop (!)
That’s not cooking
Vent here is that he has very little to say and when he does talk it’s a criticism about me eating food or me being irritating talking when the tv is or some fault with the housework,
my mum once cleaned the house for 2 days with my sister (they stayed at mine) when we went away (and i’m not the most amazing housekeeper) and he immediately just goes ‘there’s a bulb gone in here’ I get that treatment with literally everything he fault finds
and criticises if i leave things in a mess
maybe it’s because my jeuvenille sexy feelings have all gone away or maybe this happens in a marriage a bit, but god i could really snap if i don’t figure out the best ways to respond in a crisis moment like ‘why can’t you just shut up’ he says and i just laugh and keep watching tv.
i say fukc off to him when i’m laughing - it’s an appreciation of his humour. he thinks it’s okay to call me irritating and stuff just when i’m sitting there watching tv and he makes me nervous to even walk around him for fear of getting criticism about being restless
Rant about half over