It so hard to say. For example I came across someone who’s explicitly stated she’s poorly for many months and is getting a lot of support, yet she managed to get a university degree.
I don’t claim to be as poorly as she claims but there is no way I could study for a degree. That entails a degree of cognitive health,drive and motivation that I just don’t have .
What it boils down to is the idea of who is poorly is a very subjective thing. Is one poorly cognitively socially,symptoms wise etc or a combination of all three ?
For example I accomplished more when I was my most poorly sz wise, I had more friends, had a good job, and my family semi tolerated me. Now that I’m less poorly sz wise I am poorly with socializing choosing to be richly a hermit, and poorly not working to the point of a breakdown being richly as a housewife, and poorly yet richly having ditched my family
Yes. Which makes it very difficult to prioritise help and support. Much may depend on ability to articulate need rather than any objective measure of such.
Of course, we shouldn’t base decisions about how much help someone gets simply on evaluations of how poorly they are doing, either. Someone who is more capable of benefiting from the help, or has more potentially good and healthy years ahead of them if they can benefit from the help, should also receive more help.
No need to be sarcastic. I’m just saying not all decisions are based on how poorly someone is doing, and that we have to look at the bigger picture. It may or may not be a factor in how happy you are with the help you’re currently receiving.
Who decides who and what help someone deserve or not? In most cases you got to present yourself for help. Some cases “help” is getting forced onto you. Either you want it or not.
No, you were simply offended and reacting to your emotional interpretation of what I said.
I was trying to point out to you that the fact that you see that you’re receiving less help than someone else who’s seemingly doing better than you, does not have to mean that the system thinks you’re actually doing better than you are. It could be that other factors, that are decided to be relevant based on rational arguments (but are not necessarily weighted fairly), are the reason you’re unhappy with the amount of help you’re receiving compared to other people. I wasn’t actually judging you, just pointing this out because I thought it could be helpful.
Anyway. It might help you in the future to consider the other factors for why you’re not receiving the help you need. If you understand what’s going on, you’re better able to change things.
I’m actually happier than I’ve been for a long time on that score. I was just pointing out that it’s not easy to make objective judgements as to need , and that decisions as to the allocation of help and support are not always fair and rational .
Not everyone gets the help and support they need while some get far more than they need. It ultimately comes down to human fallibility.
On that score we should stop seeing pdocs as special people with an almost God like quality , and just see them as quite intelligent people with human failings just like the rest of us.
it’s societal… consider a villager with many cows, in his culture - he’d be considered rich - but the colonialist of old came and the definition of rich changed…
Hello @firemonkey.
Perhaps you can do something even if your motivation is low.
I train many hours every day at health club, MORE than the lion’s share of the population,
even though my motivation to train is low( I would prefer to study mathematics, practice chess etc).
Perhaps something like this can work for you, as well?
. It’s difficult to determine the extent of how poorly someone may or may not “really” be.
