Lol definitely don’t send a pic of your genitals. You can try other online dating sites or apps. You can also let everyone know you’re available just in case they know someone.
Can’t do that I am afraid. Was kinda hoping that I could use these types of apps to get to know people before meeting them to take out the sting of social anxiety and actually be able to talk to them about interests etc in a thoughtful way
Not the best at spontaneous conversation IRL and especially with people I have not met before
I understand you’re trying to make some kind of point. Maybe it’s because you didn’t think I was not being serious when I said
Have tried the main ones, and I am in the rejection category it seems! I read an interesting article about Tinder where women like 4% of profiles, and men 60%
Then if you’re:
…They upgrade you. Apparently it’s unhealthy as it promotes a psychopathic pattern in behaviour to the ones who win the swiping game all the time
It’s rigged basically, which is why I gave up on those but tried this one as a last chance
Yeah, i hear you, but sometimes you got to be brave and confront your fears. If your going to date online, don’t state you want a “relationship”, state your just after friends and social buddy’s, and work up from there. I fear you may be coming across as desperate.
Cant you even sit in the local wetherspoons bar with a breakfast and start by talking to the other punters that come in, and buying them a coffee?
That’s the thing. I thought that might be something I am doing wrong, but it literally doesn’t get past the ‘how’re you doing?’ conversation wise
There are two things left I can think of being problems: My appearance or profile text - which is quite minimal
Nothing I can do about my appearance, but I can’t rule out personality being an issue - however I don’t think I am being given enough of a chance to display any of substance…
I used to go to a coffee place in town quite often, and I literally just sat there and was more concerned about the threatening thoughts coming from other peoples minds.
The problem has been going on for a while, where my mind is trying to threat analyse every person in view rather than just chatting to the people next to me.
Maybe the vibe is all wrong. I was there once and a little girl asked her mother why I looked so unhappy. Expressions on my face are not a strong point for me either
It’s a tough racket. Online match stuff puts people in a mindset of comodotizing human companionship, which puts them in the mindset of seeing you as a product rather than a person. Go online, look at the available selection of friends. Filter out traits you find annoying. Skip ones who look weird to you. It is pretty dehumanizing.
Granted, I met Mr. Star online. But even though I was presenting as female at the time, I only got 4 actual in person dates, including him. The rest chatted for a bit then ghosted me. The other 3 dates never called me again after a single outing. And I am physically attractive, so I know it was my personality that put people off.
I was really sleep deprived when i made that comment and i was trying to be funny. Defo don’t send a pic of your genitals. Just be yourself. You don’t want someone who doesn’t love you for you anyway
IDK I get constantly ghosted on social media by “friends”. I may be irritating somehow. Not that I lose any sleep because of that. I have my own problems.
