Okay, so I have this very embarrassing problem. It doesn’t happen all the time, but enough to be bothersome. I have an issue where my eyes are being drawn to look at someone’s chest or crotch area. I desperately don’t want to look there and I feel almost like I can’t control my gaze. Sometimes I can’t even focus on what someone’s saying because I’m fighting to keep my eyes looking at the appropriate place. Please tell me I’m not alone in this problem and if anyone has any advice that would be greatly appreciated.
Sounds like something you need to address with a therapist to get tips on behavioral modification.
Yeah, I think I probably should. I’m just embarrassed to bring it up.
This happens to me too sometimes. For example I can think of one situation right now
Not sure how frequent it is for me as I can’t think of many examples except 2 but it definitely has happened
I had that issue awhile back. You are not alone. I think it’s mostly a fear of embarrassing yourself. I actually started wearing dark glasses so no one would notice. I no longer have that issue really. Although I occasionally have that thought creep in.
Don’t be embarrassed with your therapist. They’re there to help you with these sort of things.
I’m a little relieved to hear I’m not the only person who’s experienced this. It seems to be happening more frequently and I have no idea why.
I am actually surprised to find someone that has that issue as well. I struggled with it for many years and wore dark shades as a consequence. I thought I was alone in it too. I honestly don’t know how it disappeared for me though. Maybe I just don’t care what anyone thinks much anymore.
I think it might be related to fear of embarrassing myself. I really struggle with that.
This happens to me.
Actually it’s natural for a woman to look for a bulge in a mans jeans or a man to look over a woman.
It’s biology. There is nothing a therapist will help you with here.
Yea I used to get this on the underground train too.
It’s as if it is communicating to me.
Wants to say hi.
That’s what it feels like.
I engage in all kinds of involuntary mannerisms that are mortifying to me and disturbing to others. They can be offensive. Most people react initially by being offended, but then that hostility diminishes to some degree. I’ve had this problem for forty years. It has forced me to make a life out of being alone.
If you have any questions on this feel free to private message me. I had that fear of not being able to control my eyes and others noticing it for years, so if anyone is an expert on it , I am. I would love to discuss it with someone who has had similar experiences.
This happens to me because I look down to avoid making eye contact with people. Then I’ll try to look to to the side and around them. I’m just trying not to stare at them.
I have the same problem sometimes, I think its a lack of attention kinda like ADHD.
Well, maybe you’re worrying about it too much and it’s making it worse. This sounds simplistic but sometimes when I start a weird behavior if I try to put out effort to stop it, it almost makes it worse. If I don’t worry about it, it might just go away.
I had that issue for a while too.
I had to train myself to not do it, but it was hard.
It was almost like a compulsion.
I don’t have this problem. I can look at boobs/ crotch the whole time while talking.
I wouldn’t let it bother you. It happens.
Try to make eye contact and correct the issue, going from chest / crotch to eyes, until a change happens.
It does feel a bit like a compulsion. If I’m not thinking about it, then it doesn’t happen. The minute my mind goes “don’t look there!”, my eyes are struggling to look at an appropriate place.