I, stupid idiot, just had the following conversation with my close male friend whom i know 6 years. We speak openly about many things. We were talking about the impact of meds/lower doses of meds.
That was very weird. And awkward.
Oh dear … 
Yes, that was what i thought too. 
So I’m guessing you feel zero interest (romantically) in your friend, right?
Well, i like him lots - as a friend. I wouldnt dare say i have zero romantic interest, but not really, not enough to marry him. There are some things that would be an issue if we would be married, whereas now things are balanced (for me :/).
And anything less than a relationship leading to marriage is no option. Im not fooling around with him, i value him (and myself) too much for just a bit of careless play. I dont do that. With anyone, but especially with him.
Plus - i would make a horrible wife.
I can’t imagine that. It is a compatibility thing. You can have numerous friends but only one you would ever consider marrying.
Just don’t bring it up again, and the whole thing will fade away.
@anon73478309
It’s kind of a cute conversation, actually.
@anon78876561, what cant you imagine?
@LilyoftheValley, we talked more about this, im afraid. He has genuine and longlasting interest, but is willing to settle for friendship, cause he values our friendship a lot. He knows i wont start a relationship. I told him a clear “no”. Even though i have thought about it at times, it isnt how i see him.
@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, you think so? Why? 
Why are you afraid? Do you not believe him that he’s willing to just be friends?
No…maybe i shouldnt be afraid! We have a strong friendship, i do think. I just wonder atm if it isnt hurting him.
If you’re kind and keep friends only boundaries it should be fine.
Yes, i always keep a certain distance. We are close, but i never get physical with him (beyond a quick friendly hug).
Then don’t worry. He’s a man and can make his own decisions about what he can and can’t handle.
You are right! 1515
That you would make a bad wife. It is all a learning process. I was a terrible wife for two years and now it’s better. We are married 11 years in August. Don’t judge yourself so harshly.
I second @anon78876561
Thanks! Both.
Im just not the easiest to be close to, i guess. Though this guy knows me and can deal with my troubled side incredibly well. (And i with his, i think).
That is great, that you learned to be a good wife and have a nice marriage now.
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