Uncle is terminally ill

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He’s been battling a malignant brain tumor since this spring. I’m visiting with him now and you can tell he’s being affected by his illness to a much more significant degree than before (I last saw him last month and it’s gotten that much worse since then). He has trouble recalling details of important life events and his short term memory is shot. He has no sense of time anymore; he spends almost the entire day asleep and doesn’t have much of a filter anymore either so he’s been saying inappropriate things even at places like church. It’s really sad to see. I always lived too far from him to get very close to him but I love him all the same and I can’t stand that this is happening to him. At the very least he seems to be at peace, so there’s that, I guess.

I guess I’m just venting. I’ve already lost two family members to cancer this year. I almost want to say bring on 2020 but I said that about this year, too.

Thanks for reading.

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So sorry for you and your family. Never easy seeing someone pass and going through stuff like that. Look after yourself and those others in your family.

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I’m very sorry, @antidepressant044. I’ll pray for you and your uncle.

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Hopefully, you can somehow make his remaining time a little better or easier.

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I’m really sorry to hear this. My dad is battling cancer too. You’re in my prayers.

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Thanks guys. :slight_smile: I really appreciate your guys’ kindness. This place is a safe haven for me to vent about my troubles.

@77nick77 Yeah, hopefully I can. We’ve brought him up here to Kentucky so he can see his extended family here (he’s from the Deep South so he rarely gets to see them) as well as see his childhood home in nearby Ohio for probably the last time. We’re taking him out to eat when he feels up to it and respecting his need for sleep during the day. We’re also listening to his Navy stories whenever he feels up to telling them, haha, he loves telling those.

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Sorry to hear that. Praying for you too.

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Thank you so much. :slight_smile:

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I hope that your uncle can find peace.

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I’m sorry to hear that @antidepressant044. But if the Navy stories are what he is holding onto you are doing a wonderful thing by listening to him. Please tell us how you and him are doing in a few days if you feel up to it. My thoughts are with you.

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I’m sorry @antidepressant044.

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I’m so sorry- sending warm thoughts to your way.

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so sorry for his illness.i hope things get better.

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Sorry to hear this @antidepressant044 :purple_heart:

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If you can you should record his navy stories or at least write them down

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@Loke That’s a great idea. :slight_smile:

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My condolences, it’s always hard to see a loved one slowly go like that, seeing them fade as time goes on.

My grandmother passed of cancer, and it was slow.

I’d recommend getting some quality time in, relish in happy memories with them, and create new ones if you can.

Again, my condolences.

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So sorry. It is hard to watch someone you care about dwindle like that. I hope your family comes through this stronger.

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