That sounds really cool. I like how you help her out. Do post the pics, I’m curious. She has a more alternative style? For daily life, and for the wedding?
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Not alternative. She just wears shorts with hoodies and (presumably) regular shirts underneath. Sometimes skirt instead of shorts. I don’t ever see which shirt she wears because of the hoodies. Most of the time, she keeps the hood up, I think because she doesn’t like her hair. That’s tragic because her hair is absolutely stunning- perfect lush curls. She’s getting a Keratin treatment before we go, so we’ll see how it look straight, I guess. I’ll miss her curls!!!
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I used to wear long gloves when I had to hide scars and wounds. I had lace gloves, fishnet gloves and satin gloves. I dressed up in a gothic style so they went along with that. Now when I have to hide my scars, I just wear long sleeves. Most of the time I won’t bother to hide my arms, but if I really have to I will wear something with long sleeves.
If I don’t hide my arms I will get comments. Some nasty, some ok, and some comments are just horribly offensive. But my scars are a part of me and I won’t feel shame for them.
I’m wearing short sleeves when I play with my relative’s kids. They don’t notice or care I have scars. It’s lovely. The ugly comments I get are from grown-ups. People should think before they talk.
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I’ve noticed scars on others several times. I don’t say a word. One was a nurse at the behavioral health inpatient hospital. She told me her backstory, unprompted, and it was bittersweet. She was a good nurse. Another was a cashier at a Five Below. Again, I said nothing, but my thoughts were along the lines of, “She’s like me/ Me too.” But I could see an AH saying something. And I’m not surprised it’s the adults. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, @nimeton.
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I wear hoodies all year round, even in the Summer months, and I don’t get overheated.
But I live in a Mid Atlantic State where the Summer months are bearable.
I also have tattoos and self harm scars all over both arms.
Sad, that she is so insecure that she is always covering her hair. Pray she heals.
I always wonder how people can be so rude as to comment in nasty ways. Why?!? What do they get out of it? I have only two scars (neck and wrist). They aren’t extremely visible, but if one notices, it’s rather clear that I was serious. I’ve seen people look. But only a nurse ever said something nasty. I refused to cover, and she demanded it and got angry, shaming me.
Also, my child asked when he was about 3: mummy, what is that? That…was painful, yet totally innocent. I told him mummy had a bit of an accident or whatever.
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