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So i dont talk about this much. But i had a flashback many years ago when a relative died, which triggered it.

This flashback was of a woman on top of me and me in a state of fear.

Psychologist 2 years ago said it was real, she documented thankfully and believed i had been abused

But idk what im trying to get out of writing this. I kinda want to cry and let go of the stress and discomforts im always feeling

Sorry if i have written this post poorly

Have any other male members of the forum been through the same?

What am i meant to do. Therapy aside (i dont have access to it atm)

(Edit. I was about 14 when it happened)

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I’m not male, but I want to say it’s ok to cry. It’s ok to grieve lost innocence. It’s ok to be angry. You did nothing wrong. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

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Does it affect men as dangerously as it affects women? Im tryna bring myself to tears but i cant atm.

But somrthing recently happened and i thought about it all again and feel pathetically hopeless

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All i remember is how scared i was

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It can affect men severely because society tells men they have to be tough, which in turn makes them unable to feel or express their emotions. It gets all bottled up and eventually can explode.

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I just want my parents to accept that it actually happened. To give me a hug and apologise. It was a “family” member and i just find it hard to forgive and forget

Im tryna listen to my heart and tryna get the emotion to move, but idk, all i can do is journal

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Don’t underestimate the power of journaling. It really help you process everything,

It’s normal to want your parents to understand and support you

Sometimes people are unable to do what we need them to do. In those cases we need to accept that they’re unable at this time and try to get support elsewhere

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I’m a female and I experience and transgender getting on top of me. Very traumatic. I can sympathize with you.

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The fear, it is paralysing - it even effects my thoughts - like i csnt think about it straight: i also sympathise with you and i am sorry

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You have the perfect words and i feel I’ll keep trying to get over the mental block it gives me and research stuff related to it too. Thank you

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@MisterApple , I have had tons of trauma in my life. I totally understand what you’re going through.

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Yeah, i was relieved to see you post because i remember you also went through a lot of experiences like this - im grateful for your support

It feels less lonely and more solidarity

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I’m glad I saw your post. You’re definitely not alone.

Since you’re male, and being an abused male has its own set of issues, I hope another male on here who experienced it reaches out to you too.

Have you looked into joining a support group?

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Im gonna ask my nurse what to do, i dont know if im comfortable yet with going to a support group but if i ask the nurse to see if he can arrange something for me - it might help

I also have an email addrrss of the psychologist who documented it - she might be able to further point me in a direction

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Well said CoCo. I agree 100%

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Those are good ideas

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Yeah im a male and was sexually abused as a teen. Ive had rough luck with older people in my life being super innapropriate towards me too and propositioning me. My pdoc and case manager think i need to do trauma therapy but i havent got the ball rolling yet. I feel kinda weird about saying all this on here. Even though i think ive mentioned it before.
I havent really told anyone except some mental health workers and my gf.

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