There is a kind of triggering situation. I can’t explain it in short, sorry.
Someone is getting a bit creepy. It’s this 20 year older guy I know vaguely because we sat next to each other at the library computers a few times and had a few chats.
He asked me one day to have lunch in town when we met in the library. He said he meant it in a totally non-romantic way. I said yes, non-romantic is fine, some other day (stupid…I’m naive, I always believe such things). We never made an appointment, I didn’t come in the library last 1.5 months and he only has my firstname and the organisation I work for (which is a big organisation).
So…now he wrote me a postcard with his telephone number and delivered it at my work! He wrote that he also looked for my bicycle in town and put a postcard on one that looked like mine. And he asked someone who used to go to my church about me, I can’t even remember telling him about which church I go to.
We bumped into each other accidently in town this weekend and I told him on second account i didnt want lunch. I told him I dont want to be friends and I don’t want a relationship and I don’t want postcards at work because it’s intrusive and scary to me. He just kept on talking and talking and saying how he hoped we could have a relationship later. I said bye and biked away.
Now… today… I received 2 more postcards at work. They were dated from before our conversation. They were scary… like very intimate letters you send to your partner… and we barely know eachother… I didn’t even remember his name. It was about how I could very well be the one for him, how he wanted someone to come home to, how he’d go all the way for me, etc etc. He was extensively talking about my son in the letter too, whom he has seen once in library, saying he would go all the way for my son as well.
I have a history of a somewhat stalkative relationship… so I don’t like it at all.
I immediately walked to my boss to ask advice on what I should do. He read the card, said he thought the tone of the letter was very creepy, even so creepy that he called our neighbourhood policeman and recommended to let some befriended lawyer write a letter that I don’t want further contact.
I find it creepy. I don’t want this. And I’m thinking very actively of what else I told him. Am I overreacting?