I usually talk to people with common interests- whether its about lifting or something, whats going on with me personally (who have I been dating, who am I spending my time with ect.) or just catching up with friends on the weekends, I generally keep spontaneous but not random, thats the key. Random is sometimes just awkward and is sometimes a sign that you have schizophrenia (everyone on this forum does so yeah) or it can be funny. But my friends and I talk about lifting, our lifestyles, sex (big topic when young people hangout) partying, college, ect. I am at that time in my life when everything is new and exciting, people are all young and have their lives blank and fill in the pages of their story with whatever they want.
I for one enjoy dating, I hate not having partners or casual relationships. I basically need sex to feel happy and I feel like crap when I dont have it for a while. Like when I date a girl and shes all goody goody or not expressing any sexual interest, I just get frustrated. Dating guys is different because gay/bisexual guys are often more sexually active, dont ask me why. I myself am bisexual and quite casual about sex, I just think it’s fun, I dont wait till I think I love someone to have sex with them, but I am open to the idea of love. I just have been to hell and know that I am resilient to love after losing my ■■■■■■■ mind. I lost my mind, so why should I not expect to lose someone I fall in love with? See my logic there? I learned not to get attached to my sanity because it left me for over a year, so its hard for me to get attached to people.
I have a lot to brag about, I often do alot of the talking, as I am a powerlifter and honors student on a full scholarship heading towards research and grad school (I will be doing research for my undergraduate degree as well, behavioral neuroscience is a rather serious major, it preps you for research by making you get in labs, conduct your own experiments and write a senior thesis about your findings) and I am attractive so people generally just want to talk to me about whatever. Wow I am pretty narcissistic.
Like for example, I asked for three peoples numbers at a club after dancing (um more like sex with clothes on frankly) and they put my number in their phone right away and sent me a text to make sure I got their number, then they texted me later. They want to get coffee or go have a drink, and they mentioned it, I didnt have to ask them to get a casual date like I most often have to. Dancing without your shirt off as a 20 year old powerlifter makes people want to get to know you, I find, LOL
I just have to get myself out there and talk to people. I went to an international high school and am studying neuroscience so I strike people as not only muscular and attractive but smart. People at school in my program like me, I have made friends in from the psych department, they think its interesting that I was a stereotypical schizophrenic for a year of my life. (Im recovered now, thanks Pfizer corp. for making my meds)
I suggest getting out there and having fun. Take your meds, dont get drunk (a beer or two on antipsychotics is ok but any more is a no-no) if you do take a party drug, take a benzo, they are ok with alot of antipsychotics and commonly prescribed in conjunction with them, and benzos have antipsychotic properties so if anything they will just do you some good. I am prescribed but I dont abuse, I never take more than I am prescribed to take in one day (one every six hours is the limit for me).
If you arent into partying or clubs or that whole thing (its not for everyone, I am 20 and flooded with hormones) just have people over and offer them drinks and watch something or go out to eat and just talk about what interests you or funny stories you have.
DO NOT talk about schizophrenia. People are generally ignorant and unless you can tell they have something up psychologically themselves, its a bad thing to talk about. I save “I am a recovered schizophrenic” for psych majors or people who I dont think I will see again. But sometimes I question if something is real and ask a person im talking to “did that just happen?” and they always say “yes” and then im like “I have schizophrenia so I was sorta unsure, haha” but thats for people at the smoking spot at school or something, not for people you potentially see again. If I a person is well educated in science I might tell them, but they understand how the meds work and the nature of the illness so they speak intelligently with me about it, usually ask me questions like “does it run in your family? How old were you when it happened? What meds do you take? How long have you been recovered?”