Yes. I probably am on the forums. I probably moan about my problems a lot too. Come across as a “drama queen”. I live at home so I don’t have much of a life that I want to lead my way hence the is forum is the only place I can complain , and take it out. You will tell me to move out but I can’t afford the rent or the stress that comes with. London is not cheap. I earn £10 an hour there’s hardly a tipping culture here.
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From my perspective, I don’t think your self centered and probably everyone else doesn’t either. I think some just thought that most of your posts where about relationships/dating etc, which to some can come off as if your eneveloped in this type of thinking. Other than that, I deal with schizophrenia and it’s a hell of a thing to go through. I think nothing of it and really wish the best for you.
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never take a joke so serious…they are just for humor and satire in a positive manner…and i know
We Sz are so sensetive towards it…!!! We can’t even differentiate between truth and fake…!!
i think u need a quality rest …!!!that’s give u a lil freshness in ur life…
…joke are meant for joke…
try to take it as a appreciation …we all love each other cuz we share same pain…
take care…
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“Joke” - you wouldn’t have said it if you didn’t think there was some element of truth to it in your eyes. People don’t just go around making jokes like that without there being some basis.
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if i hurt u sorry …u can always forgive me plz…???
We’re all self-centered to a degree, it’s a fundamental human trait so don’t feel bad about it 
I don’t think you’re anymore self-centered than the average person. Please vent all you want we’re here for you 
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I think it’s great that you live at home…I lived with my mother for a few years and then I wanted to move out. I admire you for living in London… how neat !
If you don’t look out for yourself then no one else will either. Write whatever is important for yourself. People on here have caused more trouble and spoken of many worse things than you ever have. So keep on writing about yourself any way you want to because you are not hurting anyone.
Personally, I think you are not self-centered enough, lol. I say tell us about your whole childhood. Bring on the details of every school day you’ve ever had in your whole life, lol. I can’t get enough of this stuff.
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I second that! tell us about your experiences on dating sites and your private intimate lifestyle. I can’t get enough of that!
just kidding…
lol reminds me of @chew. haven’t heard from him, in a while. probably taking college final exams 
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I saw him here about two or three days ago.
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I don’t think you’re self centered ish, and I enjoy your posts.
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If you’re talking about me @anon80629714
I’m just not interested in reading every post by everybody
it would take forever
and I don’t have anything to add by the subject line
peace and love
I never thought of you that way, you post some funny stuff to, like your video spinning around (I’m still dizzy from watching that) You seem to be a nice person, enjoy the forum and don’t worry about it.
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I second that, @anon80629714. I don’t always relate to your posts because you’re young and dating, etc., but you’ve never been offensive or anything. Don’t we all come on here to vent, share, and get support?
Btw, I lived with my parents as an adult for 18 years to raise my son. There are sacrifices but there are many benefits of having that support. We’re all just doing the best we can.
I did note that others lashed out at you, Ish. Sorry.
Jayster
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there’s a video, eh? someone link me to it because I like videos… 
London, eh? I’m a poet who was inspired by English poets. maybe I can learn a thing or two… 
but really, I don’t think that anyone here is self-centered. even if anyone was self-centered, I probably wouldn’t notice because I’m barely on the site long enough to read most of the current threads and posts. I’ve been busy… 
Sorry guys obviously I’m not myself on the one hand I feel I’m going into mania and on the other feel I’m gonna get depressed it feels weird.
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Sorry you’re going through a low spell right now. I always enjoy reading what you have to say, and try to help out where I can. You are an awesome person and you deserve the supportive resources of this site. We all have to be a little self-centered on here or else we wouldn’t be able to get the help we need.
It goes both ways, it’s easier to lash out on web and talk ■■■■ easily, since it minimize any friction caused when one interacts with other person eye to eye.
I’m more in control now, but I do remember being biased with some idealogy and just unleashing madness on other person comments or so on. But I’m better now, I’m working on that. It’s still in me, but I’m aware, probably part of sz. Since no responses ever was any constructive.
This might not be a popular opinion, but I think jealousy is going to be a factor sometimes with some of your topics, @anon80629714.
I mean if you look all over these forums, the majority are complaints or about things that SZ/A people deal with, where we are lamenting, venting, discussing, encouraging, etc together. It’s not like talking about one’s self and one’s problems are at all abnormal for this place, in fact given the peer support feel of this forum culture, it’s actually the norm.
But you might also notice that for nearly everyone who isn’t already partnered/married, dating is brought up as some forlorn wishful thinking at best, like jokes about how they don’t date, or wanting to talk with others about how they don’t want to date (even though they do) as if to comfort themselves in their belief that they will never date again. Many just sort of cut it out of their lives like amputating a limb and try to ignore any loneliness they feel, since they feel it is beyond their control, anyway. I see this on other severe mental health forum communities, as well. So then they are here to discuss other issues with SZ/A, like medication side effects, flat affect problems, anxiety/paranoia problems, stigma issues, etc.
And then you come in here and holy ■■■■ you’re actually trying to date people. You’re on dating sites, you’re going out on dates or speed dating events, and you’re fully acknowledging your basic human desire for intimacy. And then you seldom seem to openly consider SZ/A issues to be an obstacle, you’re just going for it. So it’s not a bad thing that you’re doing, but can you kind of see how the people who have convinced themselves that they can never date again, how their convictions in that regard might get challenged by seeing you doing what is supposed to be ‘impossible’ in their own minds?
I don’t really see it as anyone involved being a “bad person” or anything, but I think sometimes people get jealous and sometimes they don’t even realize when they get jealous. Humans being humans, probably not trying to be malicious. So I don’t think there is anything wrong with your posts at all, just again, people’s feels getting in the way sometimes.
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