I’m trying very hard to let it go. I am working on trying to grow up and let go and get over stuff. But then I find myself acting like an angry little kid and floating out of my body and not acting right and then feeling upset about how stuff played out that I loose sleep. This is really eating me up.
A few months ago my sis was dating young man from my Sz group. While she was really falling for him, he was cheating on her. My sis took the cheating part Ok; and extended the hand of basic friendship to this tomcat.
He told her he didn’t have time for virgins and since she doesn’t put out, she wasn’t worth his time. He doesn’t want or need her friendship." Then she cried, moped and went through 3 batches of sticky popcorn.
So the tomcat is young, Eddie Vedder looking, rampant, indulging with any stranger he can grab and likes his reputation as a man whore I guess. (sorry for the vulgar on that one) He works to perpetuate this reputation. I don’t know WHAT happened, but guess who came knocking on our door.
I WANTED my sis to kick him a good one and slam the door in his face. But she didn’t do that. She did understand that this rampant tomcat is NOT welcome in our home so she went outside to talk to him. I don’t want this tomcat around. She’s says she’s NOT going to date him, but she re-extended the offer of friendship.
I didn’t react to that very well. She says she thinks he’s going through a manic phase.
The symptoms she says she notices is that he talks fast, goes from happy to irritated quickly, has done a lot of impulsive things like quit his job and sold some of his guitars to start betting on the horse races. She also said that she read some where that impulsive sexual indiscretions as well as impulsive and lavish money spending is a red flag.
I have to admit, the entire Sz group has noticed he’s been really bragging up his demi-god status. He has the highest I.Q. and is the best, most good looking, superior man on the planet according to him. I just want him to go far away. I can’t be like my sis and extend the hand of friendship.
I admire my sis for her forgive and forget abilities. It’s how we’re still friends. I do wish I had that quality. But I also don’t want my sis to try and “Save” another person. But my sis being who she is always says… it doesn’t hurt to be a friend and just listen. This tomcat has already said he as no interest in friends. He just want’s sex with NO friendship. It’s the way he treats people… he talks about people with such contempt. When he talks there are Two groups of people in his world… the worthy and the losers. I’m glad I’m not worthy.
Why won’t my sis just kick this tomcat out of her life? This is why I know I’m not as open, patient and forgiving as I want to be… I’ve hardly slept, I’ve been pacing the apartment. I don’t trust this guy at all. I even had a dream about kidnappers. I hate to say it, but I’m angry that she’s being nice to this tomcat. Maybe it’s my paranoia, but I don’t see this ending well.