Im also nonbinary
does it mean you identify as neither male or female? i guess yeah.
how did you come to this realisation? @Grookey
I’m a ‘demiboy’ - a nonbinary identifying person who leans toward masculinity more
Basically though I consider myself a guy too. It’s complicated because I’m autistic.
I realized I was trans when I met someone else that was. A couple years later I found myself not feeling right still, I spent years flip flopping between male and female because I didn’t want to accept I was nonbinary plus I wasn’t receiving any support. I didn’t accept it until last year. I don’t think it was any one thing that did it for me, a mixture of time and a supportive partner really turned my life around gender wise.
My best friend is non-binary. I didn’t really understand it at first but after spending so much time with them they really do have traits from both genders. It is actually pretty simple I guess.
This is an area where I’m a little muddled up. Find it hard to define myself. At a basic ,physical I,of course, know I’m male. I don’t identify for want of a better phrase with ‘stereotypically strongly masculine men’ . Various online tests put me as more on the feminine than the masculine side. However I’m probably the most clod-hopping person you could ever get to meet. Whether it’s stereotypically male or stereotypically female male activities,or gender neutral,if there’s a practical element to them I’m more than a little inept. My social skills are poor. Hence I struggle to make friends, but feel less out of sorts with women than with men.
Due to probable dyspraxia I could never have coped with the,at the time(not sure things have changed), need to live as a woman x amount of time. Think of the worst man you’ve ever seen in drag, and make it 25% worse-that would be me. The likelihood of being mocked,ridiculed and beaten up would be stratospherically high.
Also generally whether male/female masculine/feminine binary/non-binary etc I’ve always been something of an inept freak.
I’m nonbinary. I flip flop between feeling like a girl, feeling like a boy, and feeling in between.
I can relate though I never feel like a girl exactly just feminine
Why would one person be called “they/them”?
On one hand though people say “blue isn’t always for boys and pink isn’t always for girls” and all kinds of permutations of that. On the other hand, they then say “well today is more of a blue day or more of a pink day and I flip between them.” So the thing is they say stereotypes are not valid, but then they rely on those same stereotypes to explain their nonbinary status. It’s confusing to me.
I could make sense of everything under the LGBT rainbow up through and including trans, but nonbinary continues to mystify me. Its definition seems to vary from person to person. I wouldn’t be super comfortable referring to someone as they or them but I’ve thought long and hard about it and have reached the conclusion that I’ll just call them what they want to be called because it’s polite.
Because it’s what people normally use they talk about someone and don’t want to use he/him or she/her, and some non-binaries don’t feel those pronouns fit
@Pikasaur I have read and reread your post 4 or 5 times, and I don’t understand. Can you break that down real basic for me please? No comprende
If you talk about someone and don’t know their gender, you say “they”. “Who are they” “what did they say”, etc.
People who are nonbinary don’t want to be called he or she sometimes, so they prefer ‘they’
And for whatever length of time they’re sitting in gender limbo what do they do? As I understand it (and I may be totally wrong), nonbinary means they identify as no sex? Or the opposite sex? This is hard for me to understand.
Nonbinary means a person doesn’t identify as male nor female.
Gender identity is often fluid, but there’s no given timeframe for how long someone identifies that way
I appreciate you trying, but I don’t understand. No worry, my brain is fried. I’m doped up on Thorazine.
It’s a modern world and we’ve come far but we need to be more open. I have no problems avoiding stereotypes and am trying to use more generic pronouns for everyone. I think that is important and whatever you choose to identify with is cool by me. I respect individuals.
I know it’s confusing at first but it’s worth investing the time into it. You may discover something about yourself or understand someone else deeper, or just in general learn about where humanity is heading in the gender department. I agree that everyone’s gender is unique to them and labels often fall short of capture the true identity, but it’s all we’ve got so we lump people together. But trust me all we want is for people to study it a bit to understand the concepts and validate our identites by using correct name and pronouns. They’re not negotiable regardless, it is basic respect.
There are several billion people in the world. Does that mean there could be upwards of several billion genders?
I’d like to help everybody feel included, but if genders can change and so quickly, how will we keep up? I mean, with so many people in the world, it could get a little out of hand, no?
I’m not trolling you, I’m having a hard time understanding it. And yes, my brain is offline tonight soo…