They say life is what u make it...please

What a load of horse ■■■■. I heard that all the time as a kid and now ive realized what bully that really is

I totally disagree. Life is what you make of it. Our lives are based on our decisions and attitudes. You’ll learn that when you grow up.

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Keep waking up to the music. Keep it 1000% and make sure you don’t let anyone take what is yours. Property is theft make sure you keep you head in game and use your gut feelings.

I guess but why was i predestined to be sza. Why are there kids born with even worse debilitating illnesses like down syndrome. Some dont even make it past the womb and become still born

Agreed. 1515 2016

No easy answer for that, other than Nature at work, unfair though it may be.

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The weight of research favors Malvok’s POV here. But if one’s attitudes and decision-making capacities are verblungent, one might want to try…

REBT – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy
Schematherapy – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_Therapy
Learned Optimism – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism
Standard CBT – http://www.beckinstitute.org/what-is-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/About-CBT/252/
MBCT - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22340145
ACT – https://contextualscience.org/act
10 StEP – http://pairadocks.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-10-steps-of-emotion-processing.html

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I think it’s an incomplete phrase. I’ve learned over nearly three decades that life is actually what you make it out of a set of circumstances you get thrown into with each passing moment.

Sometimes I agree with this… sometimes life feels out of my hands.

But since I’m not the person I was even 6 years ago… I think we have the ability to change things.

Since I have the ability to change parts of my life… I do think my life is how I made it…

Now will it stay that way??? probably not… because everything changes.

But the choices I make now… are going to determine my path.

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Like in “The Serenity Prayer,” I think it’s both. We have to find out what we can choose, what control we do have, and also learn what is not up to us.

Life is not simple or easy, from my experience.

There was a framed version of this poem in the house where I grew up:

“Desiderata”

"Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world…"

“”
Max Ehrmann, “Desiderata”