Therapy not helping where it matters most

My therapist is great to talk to, and sometimes venting to her is what I need most in that moment, but I feel like all I do is talk and she listens and sometimes offers another perspective on what I’m saying. I feel like I need more “hands on” therapy I guess?? Like on tv when they have “exposure therapy” or things like that. Basically I feel like I need a style of therapy that makes me challenge my issues instead of just talk about them. I’ve been going to therapy for about a year and the only thing that’s changed is that I’m less angry because I vent to her all the time. But my social skills are terrible in person. No one wants to be my friend because of the way my schizophrenia affects the way I talk and act. I really need to be “trained” to behave normally in public and my fiancé tries to help me but it’s not working and we’re both getting frustrated. I’m tired of having no friends because everyone thinks I’m annoying and weird. Any advice?

See another therapist, but try telling her that you want a more hands on approach first. Mine is very hands on.

I was once offered a reality therapy.

I: "Doctor, people look down on me."
MO: "If people look down on you, then what?"
I: "It hurts my feelings."
MO: "If it hurts your feelings, then what?"
I: "…"
MO: “In fact this is how the society perceives someone with schizophrenia.” (I think he meant stigma here)

I’m gonna tell her what I think I need and see if she can work with me. In the past she’s said “therapists don’t really have the authority to tell you what to do” but that’s EXACTLY what I need! I need professional advice, not Yahoo! Answers’ “16 Steps to having good people skills.” -_- I think it’s because I live in New Jersey and EVERYONE here is scared to death of getting sued so no one is willing to just tell you what you need to do in case it doesn’t go the way the person wants. Then they sue, because that’s what people do in New Jersey

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I live in New Jersey also, I know what you mean, there are a lot of lawyers and law suits in the state.

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If you don’t mind me asking, what part of jersey? Like north, central, or south? I’m in central jersey and it’s nothing but snotty rich people and McMansions as far as the eye can see

I would try asking your therapist if she knows of a mental health agency that can set you up with a peer specialist.

I am pretty sure every state in the U.S. has the peer specialist program by now, or some kind of program similar to a peer specialist.

Peer specialists are people with a schizophrenia, bipolar or major depressive disorder diagnosis that serve as mentors to people who have a hard time adjusting to living with a mental health problem.

I’m not too sure about this, but I think peer specialists go out with you into the community to relearn social skills or other skills that you may have lost after becoming sick. Peer specialists are usually more hands on.

I live in the northern part of NJ, about 30 minutes from NYC.

north west really.

I’m a broken record on this, but Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the best form I’ve ever had, and it’s proven to be effective in treatment for sz. I wish you the best. I live in an area now where there are too few options.

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I didn’t even know they had that option! I would love to try that, I’m gonna look into it ASAP. Thank you :slight_smile:

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I haven’t had that since I was little, maybe if I tried it now it would be more beneficial to me. When I was little I didn’t wanna work with the therapist but I’m more than willing to now

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Yeah that’s a very stereotypical “New Jersey” area. I’m about an hour away from NYC so there’s a little less city influence but not much less

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