The truth about feeling/not feeling

[Genbu]

The truth no one will want to mention is that we will subconsciously choose to stop feeling when we encounter something painful that we don’t know how to deal with/won’t accept. This is especially true if something like jealousy/envy occurs and it turns into self-hate. Or we feel like we’re powerless/hopeless/helpless to change something or acquire something.

After that, our subconscious controls most of our outside actions and convinces us that we just don’t know why we can’t feel or why we behave in certain ways.

Then, ‘addiction’ (a surface symptom) appears and we can’t seem to understand it or how it formed and why it’s there. It just seems ‘there’ without cause.

Nothing is ever cause-less in this place. Unless you want to adopt a mystical-ey type of mentality. Which… is just yet another coping mechanism that occurs to cover the painful feelings.

Oh yeah. Don’t expect anyone to be honest about this. Most of us our too busy coping too - you know?.. And can you expect anyone not to continue coping when we don’t even know we’re doing that?..

[Genbu]

The pain of social rejection

"Anyone who lived through high school gym class knows the anxiety of being picked last for the dodgeball team. The same hurt feelings bubble up when you are excluded from lunch with co-workers, fail to land the job you interviewed for or are dumped by a romantic partner.

Rejection feels lousy.

Yet for many years, few psychologists tuned into the importance of rejection. “It’s like the whole field missed this centrally important part of human life,” says Mark Leary, PhD, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University."