I think talking to a professional can only be a good idea - especially if this is working you up. I’ve seen 4 therapists in my time and they were all a big help in offering support.
Most women are not actually mysterious. They are like men in that they react to particular situations(in the broadest sense of the term). It’s when there is a disconnect somewhere or where things are not being said, that ultimately should be. This is my take on it.
In your own family it depends if you are very close to someone in particular. Someone that may be a confidant or has been in a similar situation. You are right, her family would be inappropriate and disrespectful. But we all need to be realistic in today’s society. People are not as close as we once were. The “rules” of keep problems of your relationship between the two of you rarely work. Look at the divorce rate for clarification on that. If someone doesn’t have a best friend to go to, a close person in the family can be a valuable insight.
I think seeing a counselor is a great idea. Just know you may need to try a few before finding the one you click with. And that’s ok. You don’t have to like everyone. Remember, this is to help YOU, so don’t be afraid to look for a good fit.
You want someone you feel comfortable being honest with, who responds in a way you’re comfortable with, and whom you feel you can trust.
Maybe pm someone here too who can be a listening ear and give practical advice
Ive been with my husband 28 years and we get along in our own unique, weird way. Theres always going be curveballs along the way but being there through thick and thin is whats most important
Take care of yourself @Bowens I never dated or had a significant other. Marriage is still pushed on me by my family. Whatever issues you are having may they work out. For the better. May your relationship with yourself find and have what it needs. Much support to you as you need it.