The more time I spend with the people,the more they cannot stand me

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I am not a well liked person,I need to keep switching between people I spend time with

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I appriciate tho ur trying out… keep it up homie…!!!

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perhaps you are trying to hard for wanting or making people like you. i suggest falling back and coming to terms with liking yourself more or loving yourself more. then you will have the confidence you need to properly socialize with other people or should anyway. how can anyone else like you if you dont like yourself? just a thought

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Okay,guess your right.I do feel dislike by people tbh,I guess I can only step back and love myself more and do stuff I like to do

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I recommend a good book to you, Gtx, its title is “The 5 love languages” by Gary Chatman. This book has two versions, one for married couple, one for singles. Really good book for improving human relationships

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I’m sure people don’t dislike you as much as you think. I used to feel like people disliked me until I realised most of it was just paranoia due to the fear of being disliked.

I guess what you can do is try to analyze what it is that makes you feel like people dislike you. I mean, what behaviour or way of reacting are you displaying that people don’t like, and then either try to change/soften it, or find friends who accept it.

“be yourself” is good, but sometimes we have to hide certain parts of ourselves or soften them a little, it’s just adapting and there’s no shame in that.

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I have the opposite problem: the more time I spend with people the more I cannot stand them. :slight_smile:

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I feel I’m not likeable too. I keep trying though.

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I recommend that you be gay!!!

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Hey @Chess24 how are u now…!!! Plz respond…!!

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i feel the same way . i think people sense my anhedonia

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I actually feel this way too,relatable

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@Berru your comment let me feel more relieve

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Are you sure you don’t just “think” that they don’t like you

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I don’t know,I feel they avoid me.Maybe they sense my unhappiness,nervous vibe or negativity…not sure

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I always thought the same and that people hated me and avoided me but infact I was just think it and in so ended up avoiding and being an ass to everyone

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I feel this way too, although some people do seem to want to be friends with me. stick with it. There’s a good chance it might just be paranoia.

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Do you abuse them ?

I have not been overly popular in my days either.

I was bullied and told I am ugly retarded whore â– â– â– â–  etc

But the people who said it were not exactly stunners

I am horrid when I drink alcohol which is why I nolonger drink it.

I have felt hated by all but do not feel that way anymore thankfully.

Hope you will find some good people to stick by you.

But if you treat them very badly then they may need to distance themselves.

Forum is good.:blush:

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I used to think this too. I used to think that the more people knew me, the more they hated me. I don’t think this anymore. I am older now and my sza has grown much more mild over the years thank gosh. It was very severe my whole life.

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