They think people who are happy are just “fake” and we need more miserable people to “tell it how it is”. Lol no you miserable person are the problem with the world. It’s not hard to be nice. You should fake it till you make it before you emanate your misery onto the rest of the world. Not saying anyone here just ppl in general.
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Yeah, @Goyankees, but even people who always seem to be happy can be a pain, too!
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That’s true. But I’d rather pretend to be happy when I am sad 
than just be miserable all the time. Not saying anyone’s perfect but we should attempt to be nice as much as we can. Misery is contagious.
Like if someone having a bad day says “I am fine” you can tell they’re having a bad day still. I’d rather someone be fine, good and great all the time then always “tell it how it is” because they’re always upset.
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@Goyankees I am happy when people are happy, I want everyone to be happy.
I think that to a considerable degree people control their happiness and misery
by controlling their thoughts.
For example when unmedicated I used to get the thought a lot that I don’t want to live but it was
an intrusive thought and now on olanzapine I barely get it.
Misery is an intrusive emotion.
If you control your thoughts you can be happy even if your objective situation is bad/even if your life isn’t ideal/
even if lots of other people do better than you.
Also envy is an intrusive feeling, instead of envying other people you should be happy for them.
I hope one day my schizophrenia is cured and I can fulfill my dreams, but I am very happy even now.
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Glad to hear you are happy Erez. I just keep thinking about this one man in the hospital who was very miserable and he was not productive!!! His health was fine, he had a wife, he had kids, but he didn’t like his life and he took it out on other people with his poor mindset!!! We were locked up in this unit, unable to work, we wish we could work. But he hates his life because he works at this hospital. I wish I could work and not be locked up in the surrounded walls of a mental hospital. I’d much rather be working 8-10 hour shifts than have my freedoms taken away from me for a week straight and poor health. But this guy wasn’t appreciative. And felt everybody should be miserable like him!!! I try my best to be happy. This guy doesn’t try his best to be happy. I try to make a bad situation into a decent one, he makes a decent situation into a bad one.
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Happiness is rare. I’m the happiest person I’ve ever met but I haven’t been this way all my life, it’s come after much soul searching and going through hell with a kundalini activation.
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I am happy too. People are almost in awe at my happiness because I don’t have job, girlfriend, schooling, etc…
I think I do a great job with the hands I am given.
I am happier than people with a lot more than me.
I am lucky I have a loving family, great medications, great kitten, not in poverty.
That’s what I have going for me.
But a lot of people have more going for them and are less happy than me. I have sought happiness for a long time. Unconsciously sought happiness and I think I have attained it somewhat!?!? And I am grateful for that. People almost think down on me for being happy with less. They think I’m clueless or something for being so happy despite not having such great things all the time. But happiness comes from within. Happiness to me is sitting on a bench in nature and staring at the butterflies and the flowers.
It is also a chemical balance in the brain, because before Zoloft I was obsessed with finding a girlfriend to make me happy, now I don’t care for a girlfriend much at all!!! I don’t desire much… I desire to not lose anything, or gain anything. Just status quo. It’s amazing how a tiny lowest dose of a pill could change my mindset so much. Which is why we should watch out for people who have their priorities mixed up, because it could just be a chemical imbalance in the brain, I’ve learned so myself. But I was never insidious to other people. I did my best to try to make others happy even when I was miserable. Rather than taking my anger out on others. BTW happy cake day. And I’m glad you’re happy!
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I’m just wondering if it’s possible that you might be slightly hypomanic. You’ve been posting a lot more and longer post than normal. I’m not trying to offend, please don’t be mad.
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I’m not mad because its probably true. Lmao!
But I am also coming to real insights which is good rather than hypomania when it was 5 years ago I was delusional. At least with the meds when I get hypomanic, I can actually make some relation to reality which adds for more fun IMO because instead of getting hypomanic and solve the mystery of the pyramids, aliens, and Egyptians and etc… I am finding philosophical nature of human beings which I find great interest in rather than some delusion that doesn’t serve but just to confuse me in the long term.
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I agree you are making good points this morning. I’m trying to follow everything you’re saying but I just woke up and half of it is going over my head lol. I’m glad you’re having such a great morning with it! I love you kiddo.
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Not many people are able to do that. Most people are left puzzled.
Hope to read more insight from you.
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I should have said “THOUGHT” I was solving those mysteries. 
When really just the exact opposite!!! But nevertheless the rest of my post stands
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There is no reason to share misery but I don’t think that miserable people should fake being happy because that would add other misery to their miserable state. 
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