I was at celebration at my friend’s,who I know for 35 years.We went through a lot together,I could say life friend.He sleeps with women because his magnet for them.I only went cause his son wanted to see me,I used to get him things when he was younger.My friend often talks in some own way how we should live together and forget about women,like it was today.I always say in joke that is ok…But when he escorted me,he hugged me like he have a lot on his soul.I taped him back and said that it would be better.He was drunk and and started kissing my neck moving up.He held me so tight that I couldnt free my self from his arms.He never was that close in that way to me.I don’t know what to do with him.I don’t feel that way about him in all the close time we had.Is it just alcohol?
He had two wifes and has four children.Iknow that is not rule for him being straight,and I’m sure that I’m only man he would sleep with,but I think he crossed some line.
I’m sorry. He shouldn’t have kissed you without making sure it was okay with you first. It’s possible he thought your joke was you giving permission, and he got confused. Either way, it’s not your fault you were put in an uncomfortable position. If you want, you can try talking to him when he’s had a chance to sober up. You could say it made you uncomfortable, and that you don’t see him as anything but a friend, and see if he apologizes.
@Ninjastar ,it’s not that simple.I let him from time to time to play gay with me like let him touch my “thing”(over clothes) just to say him how stupid it was.
Maybe they weren’t jokes to him. Maybe he genuinely likes you. Do you like him, or were you upset by what he did?
Spoken like a typical guy…
you’ve been friends for 35 years and you never noticed he really liked you.
I’m upset and confuzed.I’m more upset that for three seconds I lost control over my self.He held me so firm.now that I went through it I’m thinking how lost of control upsets people being rapped.If I was there again I would break his nose for what I feel now about losing control.
I slept one night with other friend who is gay after we got drunk.By slept I mean in same bed,not sex.
I have been in that moment before. It’s very scary. Some people don’t care about getting consent. It doesn’t help that the media glorifies the idea of taking control as being romantic, instead of frightening and creepy. I understand if you don’t want to talk to him again, after what you’re feeling. Talk with your therapist about this. Men are frequently the victims of sexual assault. It’s not talked about often.
If you feel uncomfortable with his touches why do you allow him to be physical with you?
Thanks for support,Iwill call him soon about what happened.I will say him that gay forcing is ruining our life long friendship.
Sorry I joked about this, I didn’t see your other reply that it made you upset.
I’m sure the alcohol made him a bit more aggressive than he should have, but for a friend you’ve known and liked for 35 years.
…isn’t it worth just waiting until the alcohol is out of his system to calmly explain you don’t have these feelings in the same way?
Do tell him how he made you feel, but please leave the violence out,
it’s just not helpful.
It might be a good idea if you leave his sexuality out of it. He can’t help being gay. He can help whether or not he assaults you. What he did was wrong because it hurt you, not because it was gay.
Dear @Wave ,we have been through a lot.He saved me so many times,we used to kiss our first girls in park.I was unaware that he will try those stupid thing on force.I let him play with him because I trusted that it his silly man to man thing.
He’s prob feeling awkward now. You shouldn’t end your friendship over this. Let it bring you closer and tell him you’ll be there if he ever needs to talk.
Yeah if you are feeling uncomfortable with him being physical with you I would be up front with him and tell him how you feel.
He sounds like a good friend.
He knows my soul.I’m sorry for him not taking some medications instead of drinking,snorting,and smoking weed.I told him in front of his son.His boy is going through a lot with him.Kid was so embarrassed.
Sorry @Ninjastar ,for asking,is he latent gay?
Only he can answer that. It does sound like he has romantic feelings for you, but I can’t say for sure because I’m not him.
he’s probably just bisexual? but he was still being creepy towards you so thats not good