I know I can just call his parents and see how they’re doing,
But I know they’re at work and don’t like to bother them all the time.
I think I’ll just send them an email and set up a video chat for this weekend.
Open adoption can be complicated sometimes,
I’m grateful his parents are so accommodating.
That must be difficult. Don’t be so hard on yourself. 
I’m so sorry @anon54386108. You’re just having a bad time right now, I know. How far away does he live? Are you allowed to see him in person?
He lives on the east coast,
I live in California.
And yes, I see him a few times a year despite the distance.
Before he was adopted I got very close to his parents and we agreed to a very open adoption.
We video chat once a month and email often.
My heart hurts for you. I know what it is like to miss a child, except mine was taken by my ex and I couldn’t afford a lawyer.
I’m sorry to hear that.
Hopefully when the child gets older they can contact you again.
Was there ever a custody hearing? Well, I guess it’s too late now as your kid has probably adjusted to his current life. Are you at least allowed any contact with him?
She’s 25 now. We have had contact since she was 18. He ignored all the custody papers, was supposed to be split. I had to always good Show Cause motions against him which he ignored.
It’s over now. Just saying I understand. It’s hard.
I was given up for adoption by my mom and I don’t know who she is or where she is. I’m glad that you keep in contact with him. That’s important that he knows who his mother is and that he is loved.
We (his daddies and I) felt the same way.
We’ve always been very open and had a lot of contact.
He definitely knows who his mother is and that he is very loved.
I didn’t email the daddies,
But I will first thing tomorrow.
Looked through some pictures and I feel a little better.
I am in exactly the same position as @anon4362788 so can empathise with you both. I was advised by my therapist to “just get over it and move on”, but you never can.
Thank you for sharing such an important part of your life. That’s so great that you are in your son’s life.
It’s a shame you guys live so far apart, but it’s good to keep in touch. The plane tickets in my experience aren’t too expensive if you pick the right dates. My mom’s leaving tomorrow for CA and I probably won’t see her for a few months. We do text each other every so often though. Maybe you could do the same thing. Or camera voice chat. You just have to work around the three hour delay.
It’s so good that you can keep in regular contact. Great for both of you. This whole post has got me teary eyed for you.
Thanks, @FatMama.
We all thought it was/is very important that we all keep in good touch.
I’m looking forward to seeing him this summer and always enjoy our video chats,
Its just some days I get down and miss him a bunch.
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