How to know and what are the clues to identify someone has a sort of retardation on some level. ? there is something fishy but I can not decide?
huh? MR is not mental illness. My ears perk up when I hear that word. my son.
I experience retardation during psychosis. I told my doc about it. i do not intend to insult anyone at all. I just can not comprehend the normalities of social conduct but I met someone I like and weāve been talking for a long time, thereās just something shady I can not figure out. what the hell/
Iām so sorry, I wish the best for your son. Iām sure he is awesome. I met someone I like a lot and weāve been talking for a very long time now. I just donāt know what I see in him. But I notice something fishy and shady about him. Maybe social retardation or some sort of disability? I can not figure out yet. His picture is pretty awesome and he is handsome. what to make out of this?
ok, yeah, social isolation, but thatās a myth with most who are intellectually impaired, in fact,
my son has more of a social life than I do,
You must elaborateā¦is he or sheā¦ Slowā¦sociopathicā¦cockyā¦cant do mathā¦has a baby armā¦is part dinosaur?
like I said, I do not intend to insult anyone. But we can not understand each other. I donāt know what Iām doing wrong. I gave him so many clues, I can not get more obvious than this. I just donāt know what to make out of it. He can not confront me at all even though Iām super honest.
Developmentally delayed? Cognitively challenged?
Itās not anyone on the site at all. I call myself retarded too on some level.
Maybe this person has social anxiety.
YES. makes sense. Could be. Because when I say nice things, he acts much more comfortable. Very interesting.
Ah i think i get itā¦i have similar problems ā¦it could be a confidence issueā¦you are an attractive woman not hitting on you or anythingā¦but he might think your too good for him and just isnt getting that your interested in that wayā¦
the Freudian dual switch is, Why donāt you want me?
itās inherent.
yeahā¦ that makes sense. I just donāt understand why he could never confront me. Heās also a little crazy in some ways. If I say something nice, he takes it too far or stays away. honestly Iām better off drama but I like him and enjoy talking to him.
Maybe try to be direct and let him know you really like his company and your not just toying with him or trying to hurt himā¦
Maybe social āretardationā isnāt the right term youāre looking for?
Maybe you mean socially inept?
It depends bug, sometimes guys just act weird or nervous.
I constantly berate myself for being awkward around people, but most of the time others say I appear natural. I think along the spectrum I fall into the more socially handicapped, however. I donāt blame myself although I do feel ashamed sometimes. Itās mostly due to unusual circumstances during high school and my meds.
Havenāt figured out how to quote on here yetā¦ but this is right on the money! Tell him youāre into him. It might be that he only wants to stay friends? I know when I find an awesome girlfriend Iām reluctant to let it go to that next level because I cherish the friendship so very much.
Has he come on to you alot? Is he obviously interested in more than friends? How much do you see each other and in what setting?
Iām no social butterfly by any means but thereās my two cents for what itās worth. (Probably not two cents)
this is not very commonā¦
we all have deficits in some waysā¦ itās unkind to use the word āā ā ā ā ā ā ā by the wayā¦
if you did determine that someone was social ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā¦ what then? Whatās the point?..
Iād just leave it alone and let people be.
heās a friend of mine and Iām trying to figure out if I should just walk awayā¦ or it could be something else entirely.