Last night I was looking through scans of old photographs of my family. I saw a few very funny old pics of my brother and sister from the 80s. One was from my mother’s second marriage ceremony where my bro was posing in a really funny pose. The second was him with a really silly look on his face on the day he was married. The third was of my sister’s huge, 80s, mall hair. Just silly, funny pics from long ago of my siblings.
I posted them to my Facebook. At first my bro was laughing, he made a couple funny comments and when I saw him last night in person he was fine with them, he really liked remembering those times and we smiled about how silly we were as kids.
Then, because I had tagged him in the photos, everyone on his friends list must have seen them. Which shouldn’t have been a problem, they were great pics.
Unfortunately, my family are very religious and they surround themselves with their religious friends. These friends, now, I don’t know if they really are as devout/fanatical as they seem or if they just feel they have to put on a show by posturing all the time but two of them decided to comment on the pics.
One woman, who was close with my family, especially during my mother’s death and the death of her mother, posted about how it doesn’t matter what people look like on the outside it only matters that they have God in their hearts, and other assorted crap.
Then a male friend of my bro’s left a long message about how people change physically over the years and how what’s important is growing in wisdom and such malarkey.
I was like what the F? My pics were not commentary on my bro’s appearance, he looked fine then and looks fine now. They were just because of the silly looks on his face. I deleted the woman’s comment, it was too preachy and serious for my wall. I replied to the man by saying, “These are just silly pics. Smile, no need for a life lecture.”
I tried to be nice, that is truly the limit of my diplomatic abilities.
I slept a while and when I woke up I saw that my brother had deactivated his Facebook account. He’s been using it a lot lately, posting funny videos and sports stuff and family photos.
I sent him a bunch of texts and when he answered this morning he was very vague about why he did it. He just said it was the comments. I pushed a little but he wouldn’t elaborate. I don’t know if he’s upset about what I did or what they did. He really seemed to like using his Facebook and I feel like total ■■■■ because he’s deactivated his account over the pics I posted.
Man, I wish I was better at social maneuvering.