I thought the topic was “So my friend massaged me for my birthday and”…
I was so confused by your post. Oh…
I’m sorry that you are feeling that way. I truly am. Do you know why you were such good friends in the first place? Maybe you can talk to her about those things and see if your and her perspectives have changed?
I wouldn’t give her up. Maybe that’s just me. It gets harder to make new friends the older you get. If she sent you a message she obviously cares about you. And you did go to university together and have history together.
It’s her choice to decide if you are her cup of tea or not, you shouldn’t make that choice for her. Does she live near you? It’s easier to maintain a friendship if you get to meet once in a while.
I closed a friendship with someone I had known since highschool many years back, but that was because he called me up almost every day even though he didn’t really have anything to say. I think he was just killing time while he walked home from work. So he would call me almost every day. I told him not to, it was too much. I probably told him 10 times, but he just kept calling. So I decided to end the friendship since he couldn’t respect my wishes. But that’s a lot different I guess. Sometimes I feel a little bad about it. He was a outsider at school and in his adult life as well…but what can you do.
It was nice that she messaged you on your birthday. Are you sure things were negative on her end? It’s hard to read peoples intentions and meaning over text messages. I hope you and your friend keep in touch. We need friends.
I’d give the relationship a vacation. Take a break from her. Take a breather. You’re choking on her now. You probably aren’t thinking too clearly about her now. You need some time and some space.