I used to lie for no reason when I was in middle school. No idea why just felt like embellishing stuff. Broke the habit eventually.
And I was a sneaky sneak sneak
And also went through a stage of being too honest and telling people everything with no boundaries.
If it’s a harmless lie that doesn’t have any consequence for any one, I chalk it up to personality flaws and just let it be.
If someone feels the need to lie about stupid stuff, that’s their problem.
If a lie has consequences for others and/or me, I take it personal and start avoiding the person.
In all seriousness, I feel very uncomfortable when I am not honest with people. I’m pretty much an open book. The closest thing to a lie that I have done recently(besides my obvious tall tale above) was that I had an extra cigarette a few days ago and did not tell anyone that I cheated (until now).
Like Aziz said above though, sometimes people lie to not embarrass themselves or others. Maybe it’s not condonable , but it is understandable in certain circumstances. Some lies are worse than others.
I walk away from someone who lies to win an argument. I feel uncomfortable when I am forced to lie. For instance, a sister in law insisted that I use her frequent flyer card so she could get more miles on it. That was really creepy and I wish I had insisted by saying no.
The only person in my life who is lying constantly right now is my sz brother, but I kind of give him a pass because of the disease.
The only real experience I had with lying was in elementary school, where we had a kid who constantly made up stories. In my opinion lying is something you grow out of if you want to have any credibility as an adult.
I don’t know. If your mom came up to you and asks you how she looks in an outfit and you think she looks old and fat, would you say “you look good” or would you say “you look old and fat”?
I still think lying has a role when you are talking about small things. It still makes me uncomfortable but the alternative is worse in some situations.
There are lot’s of examples of white lies that are better than telling the truth. Do you tell your child that just started playing violin that they are making a horrible racket or do you tell them that they are improving to encourage them? I’m not big on lies but there are certain situations where being brutally honest is not the best policy. Being honest in this case could result in your child giving up because they thought they were no good.