Should I move house and be independent?

I have been offered my own house.

I currently live in a group home (supported living) with staff here 24/7. I live with 3 other people with disabilities. Its in a nice area and the house is nice and well maintained. I’ve been living here 10 years and I like it. We have 3 washing machines and 2 dryers between 6 people on the complex. All the appliances are replaced when they brake not no cost to us. I like the people I live with. Also I don’t have to pay anything to live here as get full housing benefits. I get full benefits with minimum outgoings. Also because I’m in a group home I don’t have any problems claiming disability benefits as they know you have to be pretty ‘severe’ getting a placement.

Thing is I’m worried about my housemate (and good friend) moving out, he wants his independence. The care company who runs the group home have moved unsavoury people here in the past and it has had a huge impact on my mental health. The people they moved here were fecal smearers and an arsonist who set two staff members cars on fire within 2 weeks of him moving in. They both got kicked out.

I know have bad anxiety around who moves in here. The big area manager of the care company has reassured me that who moves in here now will be comparable and she is going to make sure nothing bad happens like last time.

I have been offered a house to myself through social services. I’m unsure about taking it. I will only have 3 hours a day one-to-one. I might become a recluse again if living on my own. The house might not be fully covered by housing benefit. I might be lonely. I’ll probably have a different staff team. The property is the same company who runs where I’m living now so still classed as supported living.

I only want to move out as I have severe anxiety about who moves in here.

Should I take a change and stay here and possible be unhappy or get my own house and possible be unhappy or it might make me more happier? I’m really struggling to work things out.

Can you clean your own home and do your own laundry and prepare food? You need to be able to do all of that to live on your own.

Can you move back to a group home if it doesn’t work out?

I’d think about those things in my decision making

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I can do most things with motivation. I will have 3/4 hours a day one to one staff support. Last time I lived on my own my house was a mess and I didnt take care of myself, also I become a recluse and was drinking alcohol everyday. I think if I lived on my own their is a possibility that I wouldnt let staff in and I would isolate myself.

I could move back into a group home if needed but they would have to find a placement and that may not be the area I live. I’m in a brilliant area now and I love this town. (The house is in the same town)

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Maybe you should stay then, especially if being there keeps you from isolation and using alcohol.

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