I barely slept at all last night because I had to breathe through my mouth due to stuffed nose. I kept waking up and feeling extremely thirsty, gave up at around 5.30.
I still have a cold. My nose is stuffed, my throat is sore, I keep going back and forth between shivering cold and gross-sweaty, and my head hurts. I’ve had to call in sick today. Not the best way to start a schoolweek I suppose
college is cool so far! i made two friends, tonight one of them walked with me a mile down the road to krogers where we bought some groceries including brownies which we made in the common kitchen. im saving some for our other friend and for when my roommate gets here tomorrow
sort of manic, i notice i get on these highs when im around people alot. like i feed off their energy. its weird because i used to be so introverted but as i get older i start to feed off peoples energy rather than being tired out by it. like i said i impulse walked with a friend like half a mile to a krogers and spent more money than i should have and now its 3 am and im not tired even though i have classes at like 10:30 tomorrow. my cat is equally manic lol my thoughts are kind of scattered n stuff too
Things are not so good in Honeymoon land recently. Its very sad, we are not communicating well lately. I hope he doesn’t quit on me. We can usually work things out but last night was different.
@Skims Mr. Star and I struggled too, when we were first married. Everything seemed like such higher stakes, and the pressure was on. It made us act differently. Hopefully, after you’ve both adjusted to being married, you’ll go back to normal again. You could practice communication exercises such as deep listening, where you take turns talking for three minutes with zero interruptions, without even looking at each other so you can’t communicate nonverbally during the other person’s turn.
Another one we did was to print out lists of positive character traits, and circle the ones we thought described us. Then, we did the ones we thought described the other person. It was a nice way to see that the other person sees and loves things about you that you don’t even see in yourself.
@LED We’ve been seeing a therapist and before the marriage 4 weeks of premarital counseling with a pastor.
Thanks @Ninjastar. Good advice. I tend to observe the body language more than the words, and he the opposite.
He doesn’t seem to listen to me when I say I’m under a lot of stress which is why I’m uninterested in sex right now. I know men relieve stress with sex, but I have to deal with the stress first before I can even think about sex.
@Skims maybe it would help to remind him that when people feel pressured to perform sexually, it makes them nervous and more likely to tense up and be unable to perform. And remind him hat porn exists. His sexual gratification is not your job.
I go through periods where I want it three times a day, and periods where I can’t for weeks. Mr. Star also has PTSD, so I don’t have to explain it to him, but some people could worry about feeling totally inadequate or unwanted when their partners are going through a no sex phase. Maybe it could help to show him you appreciate and value him in other ways, like doing nice things or writing a cheesy love letter or something. I always make sure to compliment Mr. Star’s butt even when I’m not feeling like having sex, so he knows he’s still attractive to me.
Good morning. I’ve been up for about an hour. I got a call from my new manager at the pharmacy; I’ll be going there this afternoon to do some more paperwork.
I just cleaned out my car and trimmed my finger nails, so I was able to cross two things off my to-do list.