I saw my eldest stepson for the first since my wife died in 2005. He’s previously told my (step) dau. he hates me. I have held no animosity towards him. Although a stepson he’s less than 4 years younger than me. We were both polite to each other, but he could be termed a man’s man whereas I’m not.
I,of course, bungled with the 1st comment I made. I told him he was looking well. He quickly told me he wasn’t doing well. I’d completely forgotten that he’d recently been dxed with type 1 diabetes.