I’m not ready to date yet, but I’ve set myself a target of a year to do so. I want to get to my target weight first. The ‘waiting it out’ solution seems the best and probably easiest at this point. Thanks again.
Think of it like any addiction. Substitute other behaviors - study something, pick up a hobby, associate with other people, if you find yourself thinking about her, distract yourself.
Also, consider if there’s something about her that represents something you’re missing in your life. Is she more active? Does she get out more? Is she better educated? If you can identify something like that, work to make it part of your life on your own.
Let it be what it is @everhopeful… I kind of did the same thing when I had the oppurtunity…
Like you said though you aren’t ready to date and don’t bother concerning yourself with the inherent rejection of a married woman… If you are just depressed about being alone… There is always more time to find someone. You’re a swell dude… Sz or not you seem like you could treat someone right.
I have had some long term crushes but eventually they fizzled out with time. These days I am so fickle and it changes every day who I am thinking about romantically. I am not as obsessive as I was when I was younger and the hormones were giving me merry hell!
You can always have a fling, damage hers and your life, get back when you were at the beginning but with the sour taste in your mouth… seriously? Wait it out. Yeah love is fleeting away. No physical contact - no oxytocin produced and coming along attachment; no shared memories - no melancholy over time spent together. The best advice: out of sight out of mind (if it is possible)… good luck.
Does this married woman know how you feel about her? Need more info…? If you just have fallen for her but there is nothing between you two as far as words expressing that you should have an affair, I suggest trying to forget about it. If she has said words with you leading to an affair well that’s something…don’t get yourself shot by the way !!