So I was looking at pictures with my mom a few days ago. She kinda spilled the beans that my dad abandoned us. I was only 1 or 2. The thing is I instantly became devastated and started crying upon hearing that. Do you think it’s some trauma I’m reliving or is it just sad to hear I was abandoned?
Could have been a mix of both. Maybe if it still has such a powerful effect on you grief therapy could be helpful.
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You were abandoned by someone who was supposed to be there for you through thick and thin. It’s hard to lose a parent, let alone one who left by choice. That’s very painful. It’s ok to grieve. And getting a grievance counselor is a great idea.
Maybe you’re grieving the loss of what could have been ?
It’s normal to grieve over such a loss.
Hang in there @GEDchill.
I can only guess, but could be your life today is colored by your childhood trauma, but you’re not reliving it.
You were not abandoned. You had no personality back then… You were a baby.
The fact is you just heard about it and all your suspicions about your DAD from the past were confirmed. That would be a hard hit and all your supports and hurts came tumbling down. Now with the truth you can start rebuilding a more stable place to place your trust, in yourself and your MOM and siblings and friends and therapy and healing that comes over time, and God possibly. Better to talk about it soon with someone who can help.
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