I’ve only been in love once and that was 4 years ago. I don’t even know why I’m makin this post. It’s probabbly the depression talking. I’ve just been depressed the last few days and my sleep pattern is all ■■■■■■ up. I feel like total ■■■■ and worthless and am avoiding my family by staying in my room all day and night and listening to music for hours. It’s an escape in a way.
Love tends to find use when we are not looking, sometimes when we don’t want it. A problem most have (myself included) is thinking all our problems will just magically go away by getting in a relationship. We can put so many conditions on being happy and we never find it So still comes down to meds and therapy.
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I must have got diseased when I was 18. I remember my hygiene getting bad around that age then it just got worse as I hit 30 this year. I was such a loser I had to go to alternative school to get a GED. All the ppl in my class have no mental illness and are either moved out of this shitty state, married with kids and a good job/career. It makes me mad because they don’t know what it’s like when you can’t control something. When I was well I’d go to clubs on saturday nights but haven’t been to one since last summer. Lol yeah they do need to calm down. My dating age a few years ago was like 19-30.
I’ve only had 3 jobs in the last 4 years. I couldn’t even hold my landscaping one 3 years ago for a week. I have a feeling in my life I’m just never gonna move out of my parents house or end up with a girlfriend. The economy is ■■■■■■ as well so were so all screwed to have any joy in life.
Sometimes it can be good to revise your standards of contentment. “If only I had what everyone else had I would be happy.” We have a tendency to compare our situation to others and this can only depress us because we’re operating on different terms. Sometimes a Stoic approach to life can be surprisingly uplifting, especially when troubled by situational depression.
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Yep, I feel ya. Today at my friend’s choir concert we heard a song called “Sudden Light” and it was one of the most beautiful love songs I’d ever heard, the composer wrote it for his wife to be sung at their wedding. You just don’t get romance like that anymore.
And SO many guys today are just after hookups because of hookup culture…and the ones who do want relationships move waay too fast physically. I remember reading a story about an old couple that waited 3 YEARS before their first kiss, even. It’s really good because it lets you really build up a relationship built on love, rather than just sexual stuff.
I don’t know. I just haven’t found the one yet. I do think my illness has a LOT to do with that. (I avoid relationships because of it…I don’t want to deal with my issues so I just avoid them!) I need to wait until I find a man mature enough to want to deal with this thing with me. Maybe someone who’s been through some difficult times himself. I donno. I’m a firm believer that there’s someone for everyone though, so I don’t think we should give up hope yet!!
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I agree with this. Back in hs I was deeply upset because I sort of had a reputation as a weird girl (I was deeply depressed all through middle school, and didn’t interact much with others so that’s pretty much why) so I would always do my best to try to win others over, and be very social and friendly. I would always tell myself “If I could just get so-and-so to like me I would be happy” and then we’d become acquaintances but it would never be enough. Eventually I moved schools away from that snobbish environment, and things resolved themselves, but the point still stands.
My voices have been distant for a few weeks. They used to tell me to kill myself and that I"m never gonna get ouf of here.
When I was homeless, I used to smoke cigarette butts off the ground. I’ve been there.
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I am 44 and never had a relationship with somone. My family has been wanting me to be married for the last twenty years. For them work, marriage, raising kids is the solution to everything.
The problem for me is that I can lose interest in things and people when I am not well. I don’t think I could commit to a relationship unless I get my own space as well.
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I think it is better to not do something expected, than to do it and be told you are doing it all wrong.
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