Psychologies - 7 ways to deal with strong emotions

Families can wind you up like no-one else. Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, author of bestselling When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice For Difficult Times has been one of editor Suzy Greaves’ biggest inspirations, and her advice might help you gain a new perspective on family strife

22 OCTOBER 2014 } by Suzy Greaves

  1. Don’t expect the pieces to line up as you want them to

‘If you’re always trying to make sure it’s all pleasure, no pain, you’ll get stuck in a cycle that’s one of the major causes of suffering. You’re thinking, “Other people have it together. If I could just scramble enough, I could avoid these bad feelings.” It’s a myth to think you can line up all the pieces so everything goes your way.’

  1. Stop trying to control everything

‘Be open and receptive to situations instead. In Buddhism we’re taught that we are not actually in control, which is a scary idea. But when you let things be as they are, you will be a much happier, more balanced, compassionate person.’


It’s nice to be reminded of some of the simple things that we can do to help others and ourselves.

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